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Interestingly, the best study I ever read linked the likelihood a man will cheat to his opportunity. So it's not about whether or not he's married, or a jerk, or anything like that. A fellow who has more opportunity to have sex with multiple partners will do so. That is why your professional athlete and handsome actor is much more likely to cheat then the balding accountant on the third floor. Its not that mr. accountant has greater morals; he just doesn't have the same opportunity.
Chris Rock said it best: "A man is only faithful as his options".
Very handsome, outgoing, confident, ambitious men usually cheat the most because they can. They attract more women than the average joe.
Unfortunately most women are in denial of this fact. Most men would cheat if the opportunity presents itself, especially if they are in long term relationship. Boredom sets in and the roving eye comes out.
The most blatant type of cheating one can witness is any workplace where it's an even mix of men and women. If it's not physical cheating, it's emotional.
And while not all men see prostitutes, a lot of customers tend to be in relationships.
Being a man it doesn't bother me if most people say men are cheaters. If they had the options, the majority of them would.
Chris Rock said it best: "A man is only faithful as his options".
Very handsome, outgoing, confident, ambitious men usually cheat the most because they can. They attract more women than the average joe.
Unfortunately most women are in denial of this fact. Most men would cheat if the opportunity presents itself, especially if they are in long term relationship. Boredom sets in and the roving eye comes out.
The most blatant type of cheating one can witness is any workplace where it's an even mix of men and women. If it's not physical cheating, it's emotional.
And while not all men see prostitutes, a lot of customers tend to be in relationships.
Being a man it doesn't bother me if most people say men are cheaters. If they had the options, the majority of them would.
I disagree.
Honestly, any man COULD cheat. The reality some do and some don't. There is no absolute or universal "majority" of them would or would not.
Do not paint our whole gender with your broad brush.
Honestly, any man COULD cheat. The reality some do and some don't. There is no absolute or universal "majority" of them would or would not.
Do not paint our whole gender with your broad brush.
Yeah, I gotta say that there's a lot of room for variance with what a person grows up believing and who they are. I mean, in my pre-marriage days of foolin' around with whoever took my fancy (which are long behind me, if not entirely regretted) I even encountered a few young men who were "saving themselves" for a special love and didn't want to give it up, even for a girl they admitted strong attraction to...they knew I wasn't serious and they wanted serious. Sure, that was rare...but I'm saying people come in all kinds. Some men are intensely loyal by nature regardless of looks or opportunity. It's just who they are. Some men who aren't technically top shelf material nonetheless will fool around on their significant others...they will seek and find some opportunity, even if they aren't rockstar hot. Again, it comes back to who you are inside. How able one is to delay gratification, deny impulse, and make choices with other factors taking the lead. It's the same basic stuff about people that determines how they make many decisions, such as financial ones, too.
There are plenty of men who have a lot going for them yet don't cheat, because they have integrity.
As for the OP, if you really don't mind what your SO is doing, that's fine. It sounds to me like he is testing your limits. Men and women both fantasize about other people, but those with integrity respect the boundaries of the relationship, whatever they may be.
So I'm trying to be an understanding girlfriend, I've been cheated on before and I don't want it happening again. So here are my questions, men if your in a relationship do you still want to be with other women, I know the thought is there ok fine men like sex, but do you act on it? And if so how far will you go? Online chatting with strangers, escorts, strippers, porn, facebooking women, skyping strangers, do you have actual affairs? What do you do please be honest! Should I worry or trust my partner, he is very honest and open and I'm trying to understand a mans psychology but this is very difficult because as a woman I can say that I don't have any of these urges...
Why would any man whose found a woman he can respect and love (and who loves them back) EVER want to be with another woman?
Honestly...no facebooking other women...no escorts, strippers, or porn, what for? you can get that with the loving woman you already have.
I couldn't honestly say I loved someone ,and then cheat on them. Their happiness would mean more to me than that.
If your man is "very honest and open", you need not worry...unfortunately that's not always the case.
Some men DO value what they have at home, they "cultivate" what they already have, making it just get better and better....but it has to be something you want, both of you, to ever experience that satisfaction and peace that comes from a truly honest and caring relationship.
There are plenty of men who have a lot going for them yet don't cheat, because they have integrity.
As for the OP, if you really don't mind what your SO is doing, that's fine. It sounds to me like he is testing your limits. Men and women both fantasize about other people, but those with integrity respect the boundaries of the relationship, whatever they may be.
^All dis here.
OP, don't allow your SO to disrespect you. Plenty of dudes, like me, don't run around on their women not because they can't. But because we love them, respect them, and because we will at all costs honor the vows that we've made to them. Everybody has urges and fantasies, but acting on them is just weak.
There are plenty of men who have a lot going for them yet don't cheat, because they have integrity.
As for the OP, if you really don't mind what your SO is doing, that's fine. It sounds to me like he is testing your limits. Men and women both fantasize about other people, but those with integrity respect the boundaries of the relationship, whatever they may be.
I agree with the Chris Rock quote being tired. I work as a field engineer and my job puts me in front of various types of people and on various job sites.
I could have cheated a few times if I wanted. I remember when time I was giving a training session and they happened to be filming it. The woman doing the filming was checking me out making it so obvious that she was into me I could have easily gone out with her. I'm not bragging I'm just saying this to make a point.
I had the opportunity to cheat but didn't because not all men cheat.
So I'm trying to be an understanding girlfriend, I've been cheated on before and I don't want it happening again. So here are my questions, men if your in a relationship do you still want to be with other women, I know the thought is there ok fine men like sex, but do you act on it? And if so how far will you go? Online chatting with strangers, escorts, strippers, porn, facebooking women, skyping strangers, do you have actual affairs? What do you do please be honest! Should I worry or trust my partner, he is very honest and open and I'm trying to understand a mans psychology but this is very difficult because as a woman I can say that I don't have any of these urges...
If you are asking if you have to worry or trust your partner you are with the wrong partner.
This is not something you should be asking yourself or random strangers on a forum.
Not all men cheat, not all men want to have sex with every woman they see or find attractive, not all men online chat with strippers, porn stars, random women or Dumbo the Elephant.
You need to learn how to quit comparing every man and what he does to the one man who cheated on you. If you do not learn how to do that you will never trust anyone.
I'm surprised the fact that sexual urge is a biological mechanism hasn't been brought up more predominantly. In order to not cheat, you have to make a deliberate attempt to resist the innate temptation, and the resistance is tiring. If your mind is weak or if your willpower is exhausted from other activities, it's easy to give in. You can observe that people having stressful lives have a higher tendency to cheat than others. Politicians, celebrities, high-level managers, people that take care of their ill significant others, spend their day dealing with a huge amount of stress and are thus more likely to give in to their biological urges.
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