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Ok I think we've established that most people tell their friends or family to text them when they get home out of concern. However I didn't think it was that common to say to a stranger, which after two hours of meeting someone , you still are. I mean think about it if you met somebody out one night and exchanged numbers after chatting for two hours, would you ask them to text you when they get home? I'm sure there are people who would, I personally wouldn't and I don't think most people would.
Maybe it depends on the people you meet. Most people I meet would, because they tend to be more personable. And, not everyone sifts through every page in a thread.
yawn, go fight windmills and kites. you were asked for your "personal experience and feelings about it" and so was i, so seems like if anyone is making a big deal is you sweet cakes.
OP asked me to elaborate and i did by suggesting most guys don't obsessed about the nuances of direct communications unless there is something vague about the message. in fact, direct communication usually involves, well, a clear message without any hinting, subtleties, or other pre-text intended to cause confusion.
anyway, i actually regularly do ask dates/friends to text me when they get home just to make sure they get home safe, cuz i also usally have a good idea if they're near DUI risks (i carry a law enforcement quality breathalizer in my car). i just never occurred to me that someone would think that "special request" was something other than concern for their well being. but whatever
aw i just love it when strangers on the internet call me things like sweet cakes.
same as oceangaia, i'm curious what you would do if you asked someone to text you when they got home because you knew they were near DUI risks (someone who has a law enforcement quality breathalizer in their car makes me think... well...nevermind) and they didn't text you. would you call them and if they didn't answer, would you get in your car and go searching the streets to see if they had an accident or their car broke down? would you start calling police and hospitals?
i understand the sentiment in asking someone to text you when you get home. it's just a courtesy to most people. but it really seems kind of silly to me to ask of someone that you just met, like in the OP's case. unless i like him. then i think it's sweet. haha! just kidding. sort of...
actually i really couldn't care less! i don't know why i got drawn in to this thread. i have asked people (friends, dates, boyfriends) to text me and i have been asked (by friends, dates, boyfriends). it really isn't a big deal and i wouldn't consider it "a line" if someone asked me to.
I'm not trying to say it was a line, I was just simply asking if it was a sign of interest. And yes he was a nice caring guy there was no question in my mind about that.
No I been told that in the past and never heard from the woman again so it's usually fake concern. The only sure way to know if there is interest at the end of the day is if you made out a little lol
aw i just love it when strangers on the internet call me things like sweet cakes.
same as oceangaia, i'm curious what you would do if you asked someone to text you when they got home because you knew they were near DUI risks (someone who has a law enforcement quality breathalizer in their car makes me think... well...nevermind) and they didn't text you. would you call them and if they didn't answer, would you get in your car and go searching the streets to see if they had an accident or their car broke down? would you start calling police and hospitals?
i understand the sentiment in asking someone to text you when you get home. it's just a courtesy to most people. but it really seems kind of silly to me to ask of someone that you just met, like in the OP's case. unless i like him. then i think it's sweet. haha! just kidding. sort of...
actually i really couldn't care less! i don't know why i got drawn in to this thread. i have asked people (friends, dates, boyfriends) to text me and i have been asked (by friends, dates, boyfriends). it really isn't a big deal and i wouldn't consider it "a line" if someone asked me to.
well pumpkin, i figured you like sugar and spice so just consider my wordsmithing entertaining fiction, nothing more than online banter.
anyways, for as much as i'd like to give you a checklist of some plan of action. there are just too many variables, but all i can tell you is that it is very reassuring to get a text from someone you just connected with or truly care for after lots of laugh grins and drinks that she made it home, in bed, safe. mission accomplished. and, heck, i guess one crazy reason may very be that i wanted to know i was still on her mind when she got in bed naked. especially if i spent some time grinding, rubbing up on her or sampling her silva. ima purv, so i lke to think about sh*t like that.
but in the interest of full disclosure, most of my serious dates end up figuring out i'm a former federal prosecutor and retired military officer who can help in a jam.
and, yes, if i didn't get a text from you by the time i woke up, i'm gonna check up on you the next morning. prolly after 1pm to make sure you recovered from any hang over.
I'm not trying to say it was a line, I was just simply asking if it was a sign of interest. And yes he was a nice caring guy there was no question in my mind about that.
Either a nice guy or he really liked you. Could be both. I am one who doesn't get the whole text thing either. I was in a relationship where we may send a "how's your day" or "love you" text during the day daily and a "on the way home" text every night. The relationship I am in now, I send one liner's and she responds 10 percent of the time and I gave up on the "on my way home" texts as I never got a response. Claims she is "too busy" to respond to texts. So...I quit sending them. Differences in people I guess.
So met a guy off a dating site last night. It went ok, but could've been better which is my fault because I was super exhausted and probably wasn't very exciting company. Anyway at the end of the date he walked me to my car and told me to text him to let him know I got home safe, I also only lived a 5-7 minute drive away from the place and he was aware of this.
Anyway I texted him when I got home and thanked him for coming out to meet me (he lives about 45 min away) and I apologized for not being much company, he replied saying it was ok and that he understood I had a long day, then I replied telling him to have a good night and he did the same.
So my question is do you guys say the "text me when you get home" line because you're interested in the girl or are you just being a nice guy?
I don't like texting. I think the practice brings mis-communication; not better communication. I gather emotionally ambivalent/distant people just love it, because they can show they "care" without actually taking the big step and....caring.
If handled clumsily, affection expressed via text can be read as "too much". Annoyance with a person can come off as actual rudeness. I think phone calls are better, and I fail to understand why they have fallen from popularity. They are much more personal..and isn't that the point of getting involved in a relationship or friendship?
I got that line once. I texted him, it took him an hour to reply and tell me "Until next time". I never heard from him again. I sent him a birthday text a week later, I didn't get a response. That was our 3rd date.
I got that line once. I texted him, it took him an hour to reply and tell me "Until next time". I never heard from him again. I sent him a birthday text a week later, I didn't get a response. That was our 3rd date.
Ha, he couldn't even say a simple "thank you". This guy responded right away, but one thing I've learned in the dating world response time is not indicative of interest, as long as its within a normal time range, I'd say about 2-3 hours max for the most part.
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haha! just kidding. sort of...
