Would you be willing to be in an open relationship and/or an in open marriage? (wife, girlfriend)
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It appears that you and I view marriage differently; I view marriage as a romantic, sexual, and hopefully-long lasting close companionship. However, in my honest opinion, being in such a close companionship with another individual does not necessarily mean that one shouldn't have sex with other people as well during this time.
Your choice to live as you want, my choice to live as I want.
Personally what you do is your business but I wonder how many women will be available to you in the long term for an open marriage or relationship.
Being married also does not necessarily mean that one "should" have sex with other people as well during this time.
Hence the term "affair" and why it is so looked down upon by so many but again, I personally don't care what you do because your life does not affect me at all.
You asked a question, I answered said question and my answer for my life really should not be questioned by anyone but me.
I don't know anyone who is polyamorous, only seen them on TV. Generally speaking, it seems to be a cover for sex addiction, unless it truly is for religious purposes. I find it VERY hard to believe anyone ever maintains multiple relationships for any sustained period of time. Seems like that sort of arrangement is destined to collapse under its own weight. Eventually someone in the relationships will have a change (large or small) that will mess things up.
Since our society is basically rooted in monogamy, I don't think most people have the social/emotional skills to make polygamy work. Essentially you're agreeing to consider the needs of multiple people instead of just one. Thats what I do for my immediate family, and that's a big responsibility. What if my SO has another SO and she does not necessarily have my best interests at heart? What then? I can hardly trust the woman I share a desk with at work, what makes anyone think I would want to trust another woman to share a man?
It seems to be something a lot of people speculate about these days, but I seriously doubt that 40 years from now we'll be seeing reports of polygamous relationships celebrating silver anniversaries.
Your choice to live as you want, my choice to live as I want.
Completely agreed!
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Personally what you do is your business but I wonder how many women will be available to you in the long term for an open marriage or relationship.
Well, experience and time will tell, I suppose.
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Being married also does not necessarily mean that one "should" have sex with other people as well during this time.
Hence the term "affair" and why it is so looked down upon by so many but again, I personally don't care what you do because your life does not affect me at all.
Yes, I get that, and if you want to define marriage that way, then I am totally cool with it!
(For the record, though, the definition and meaning of marriage has changed over time.)
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You asked a question, I answered said question and my answer for my life really should not be questioned by anyone but me.
I know a few people who are polyamorous and have had successful long term relationships. To each their own and if they are happy who cares. It's not about sex for these individuals, they truly ENJOY other people and having them in their lives.
I would consider an open relationship.. not an open marriage.
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