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There are also plenty of attractive men on dating sites, you can ask them the same question...
Because even though attractive men have better odds than unattractive men, they dont get hit on by women, at the same level an average woman gets hit on by men.
But not for trolling for partners. For spending time with friends, doing trivia night, eating tavern food, playing pool, etc. sure. But, nah, not ever my first choice of venue for meeting prospective dates.
When I was single, I liked online because I could set the set the pace, decide if I wanted to respond to somebody in my own time, versus feel pressured into responding (one way or another) to getting hit on in a bar, and it's easier to lose somebody whose advances are unwanted online than it is in a bar. I also found that men were, in my experience, more receptive to being approached online than they were in person, and I was more comfortable approaching them online than in person. It also allowed me to widen my search with ease.
This...although I hated online dating, that was the only place that I could meet 'dating' men. Where I lived, you did not want to meet a guy in a bar. The bars in my town are pretty much meat markets and I wasn't looking to hook up. Either that, or every guy that hit on me was married. This town is more of a family town than a singles town (unless you're a rich single and can spend your days on the lake or the martini bars with your crew).
Many people think attractive women (and men) have the easiest time finding dates, but a lot of time that's not true. Even online in was hard. Interestingly enough my last boyfriend and my currently boyfriend have been people that I've know as friends IRL, but if it wasn't for online dating, I wouldn't have had a dating life between them.
Attractive women use online dating so they can narrow down who they talk to. They don't want to go to a bar and have, you know, me come up to them after two beers and a shot and be like, "HI ... YOU'RE SO HOT ... DO Y'WANNA BUY ME A DRINK?" Then, you know, I'll usually quote that line from Forrest Gump about how I'm not a smart man but I know what love is. That's not sexy.
Something to do with the social setting. Maybe they don't like attention or are just kind of awkward. That or they are young and grew up on it being normal.
At risk of painting myself as vain...I will answer.
I tried OLD because I am very shy and do not appear approachable, have very specific beliefs, values and goals, and I do not like the kind of guys who hit on me in nightspots (don't tend to be quality guys). I am NOT interested in hook-ups and flings.
However, I do not like OLD because I realized compatible people will come into your life naturally; and you have twice as many duds hitting on you online, which gets exhausting to sort through. It was just a big waste of time and energy, although yes, it can be an instant ego boost, until you're disappointed by the lack of compatibility in men available online.
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