Is it normal that I never feel sad after break ups (boyfriend, guy)

[Katiethegreat]

Every break up I can think of that I've had I get over it the next day,the one months ago I never thought of him again,I wasn't upset.I admit usually it's me doing the breaking up so maybe that's why.
But even with a recent break up where I was deeply in love with the person and didn't want it to end I've moved on the next day,all I feel is huge gratitude that I had the person for all that time,I think of them but there's no heartbreak.

[gemmajackson]

because you dumped them - wait until someone dumps you.

[Stagemomma]

Even when deeply in love, it is probably your brain that is doing the work in stead of your heart. So intellectually you understand the reasons. But emotionally you are probably not processing it much.

I've done the same. I've learned over time that this is the same intellectual process that prevents me from forming deep relationships in the first place, but since I haven't met the guy I really want to be with, I'm not too worried about it yet.

[augiedogie]

I think there are other factors that just the relationship. I think if a person is quite insecure or needy or desperate for a relationship, that makes breakups harder. If a person is secure, and self confident, then they get over breakups pretty fast. I was much like you. Even if I got dumped, it was a one day event. I got up the next day, dusted myself off, and went back to normal life.

[justThis]

Originally Posted by gemmajackson

because you dumped them - wait until someone dumps you.

[1xolisiwe]

You are probably not making yourself vulnerable in these relationships. It's a defence mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.

[rosebyanothername]

I think if there is a way that you can bottle that up and sell it, you'd be set for life.

[Sommie789]

Ever since, my ex boyfriend/best friend backstabbed me. I don't sad or mad feel about losing friends or men.

[The Dissenter]

Originally Posted by 1xolisiwe

You are probably not making yourself vulnerable in these relationships. It's a defence mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.

Is that a BAD thing?

[justThis]

Originally Posted by The Dissenter

Is that a BAD thing?

Yes