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Old 08-30-2015, 10:16 AM
 
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Yes I agree with that.
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You are probably not making yourself vulnerable in these relationships. It's a defence mechanism to protect yourself from being hurt.
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Old 08-30-2015, 10:20 AM
 
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Really helpful but I think you're right it's not something to worry about as I probably couldn't trust The guys I was involved with so chose not to invest ,but one of the recent ones was very trustworthy,very loving I invested a bit but then I broke up with him and never thought of him again.


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Even when deeply in love, it is probably your brain that is doing the work in stead of your heart. So intellectually you understand the reasons. But emotionally you are probably not processing it much.

I've done the same. I've learned over time that this is the same intellectual process that prevents me from forming deep relationships in the first place, but since I haven't met the guy I really want to be with, I'm not too worried about it yet.
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Old 08-30-2015, 10:46 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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I think it's a little odd, but it will happened some time in your life, but if it doesn't be thankful.

I had a girl dump me one time and I was actually relieved when I drove home from her house... apparetntly I wasn't really in love with her if I actually felt relief for it to be over. LOL
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Old 08-30-2015, 10:49 AM
 
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Never say never
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Old 08-30-2015, 11:02 AM
 
Location: The Greater Houston Metro Area
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You are the one that posted that you fall in love with a different guy almost every other day. When your feelings don't run deep - a break-up isn't even going to register much.
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Old 08-30-2015, 11:10 AM
 
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You broke up with them so you don't feel sadness.
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Old 08-30-2015, 11:12 AM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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Is that a BAD thing?
I think it's a double-edged sword.
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Old 08-30-2015, 12:32 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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No, it's not normal. Yes, it's bad.

It demonstrates a lack of empathy.

Read these and see if they apply:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-re-narcissist

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...not-know-about
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Old 08-30-2015, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Yes
Not to me. No feelings, no devastation. Sounds like a decent deal to me.
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Old 08-30-2015, 01:14 PM
 
Location: My House
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You are the one that posted that you fall in love with a different guy almost every other day. When your feelings don't run deep - a break-up isn't even going to register much.
OP strikes me, based on her posts here, as a bit flighty. So, it's not surprising that she gets over these so called "deeply in love" things quickly.
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