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It is a turn-off when they unknowingly degrade things I like. If they say art and poetry is frivolous....no thanks. If they make comments indicating they think all religion is brainwashing and their worldview is the only rational one....they just insulted me.
I can tolerate interests I don't have and take some interest in them for the other person's sake, but it will not engage me. Someone monologuing about an interest I don't share is not very attractive, then. But this may be a compatibility issue.
Only talking about themselves is a turn-off. This is the #1 issue I run into with men. They ask you a brief question about you, then switch it back to themselves. They just really like to hear themselves talk and to have an audience. They seem to show no interest in my mind or life.
#2 issue...the guy doesn't talk at all. I ask questions and relate something to get them to talk...and nothing. All that strain on me is tiring, and it feels like they are not interested. Frankly, I become disinterested.
Only talking/asking about the ongoings of daily life or past events/experiences is also dull to me. I like to discuss ideas, hopes, feelings, and personal philosophies more.
Being a total downer who likes nothing or complains about everything is a turn-off.
What may turn others off to me...
- Being very quiet and sometimes expressionless, not knowing what to say
- Not watching much TV or liking enough of the very popular stuff (although nothing I like could be called obscure or unpopular), so I am not familiar with their pop culture references, and they are not familiar with my references to literature and art
- Being spiritual/religious and having some semi-unusual metaphysical philosophies, which means many religious people don't get me either
- My sense of humor is either sardonic or involves silly puns/wordplay, which can end up with me sticking my foot in my mouth. I don't laugh at humor that I don't find truly funny, so sometimes people think I am serious when I find their humor lame.
- I talk about random theories and stuff I've read, which they often don't know about
- I put effort into my appearance and people may assume I am vain or a snob
Women who claim they like guys with tattoos generally make me lose interest in them real fast.
Well, I assume you have none. Which means there might not be compatibility there.
A guy who is clearly very into football switches off my interest very quickly as well.
Some people like things. Other people don't like those things. And it's a bigger deal for some than others, whatever thing is (or isn't) their thing...
Otherwise, let's see here...
Did I mention I usually don't care for bald men? Reminds me too much of my dad? Think I did somewhere. Really bad teeth, that's a huge turn off. Bad dandruff is kind of ecky. Weird facial tics or mannerisms, squinty eyes.
For me, drunkenness (or rather, certain levels of it) and especially drunk driving, are big ones. I would never approach or try and talk to someone who was clearly drunk.
If a man, or woman, sounds stupid or says they don't read.
Oh, and I also get easily annoyed by interrupters, sentence finishers, and personal space invaders.
Hung out with a man who brought up porn within the first half hour. It was definitely a turn off. I know most men watch porn especially single men but the fact that he cares enough about it to actually discuss it was weird to me considering there are so many other things to talk about. He also talked about sex too much.
And with him broaching these subjects, you decided to 'shimmy" your way right out of there. <---- GET IT? SHIMMY?
I've been with women who can't seem to focus their attention span on you bur rather that every other acuqiintance or friend or other person known in whatever way to them who happens along while we are togegther, they just immediately break their attending to you and get wrapped up in the other person(s). And then another acquaintance of theirs happens along and they then turn their attention span once again to this new party that just happened along and tune out the other previous person and myself . . . and so on and so on.
In summary: If you can't have the courtesy or ability to focus your interest and attention on the person you are with but are instead constantly or near constantly being distracted, find someone else. I'll likely never establish a meaningful connection with you or otherwise get anywhere with you anyway.
Though it may be the case that some of them have "Attention Deficit Disorder" (ADD) or "Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder" (ADHD). That is a possibility.
Well, I assume you have none. Which means there might not be compatibility there.
A guy who is clearly very into football switches off my interest very quickly as well.
Some people like things. Other people don't like those things. And it's a bigger deal for some than others, whatever thing is (or isn't) their thing...
Otherwise, let's see here...
Did I mention I usually don't care for bald men? Reminds me too much of my dad? Think I did somewhere. Really bad teeth, that's a huge turn off. Bad dandruff is kind of ecky. Weird facial tics or mannerisms, squinty eyes.
For me, drunkenness (or rather, certain levels of it) and especially drunk driving, are big ones. I would never approach or try and talk to someone who was clearly drunk.
If a man, or woman, sounds stupid or says they don't read.
Oh, and I also get easily annoyed by interrupters, sentence finishers, and personal space invaders.
Don't want tattoos and wouldn't date a woman who has them.
It is a turn-off when they unknowingly degrade things I like. If they say art and poetry is frivolous....no thanks. If they make comments indicating they think all religion is brainwashing and their worldview is the only rational one....they just insulted me.
I can tolerate interests I don't have and take some interest in them for the other person's sake, but it will not engage me. Someone monologuing about an interest I don't share is not very attractive, then. But this may be a compatibility issue.
Only talking about themselves is a turn-off. This is the #1 issue I run into with men. They ask you a brief question about you, then switch it back to themselves. They just really like to hear themselves talk and to have an audience. They seem to show no interest in my mind or life.
#2 issue...the guy doesn't talk at all. I ask questions and relate something to get them to talk...and nothing. All that strain on me is tiring, and it feels like they are not interested. Frankly, I become disinterested.
Only talking/asking about the ongoings of daily life or past events/experiences is also dull to me. I like to discuss ideas, hopes, feelings, and personal philosophies more.
Being a total downer who likes nothing or complains about everything is a turn-off.
What may turn others off to me...
- Being very quiet and sometimes expressionless, not knowing what to say
- Not watching much TV or liking enough of the very popular stuff (although nothing I like could be called obscure or unpopular), so I am not familiar with their pop culture references, and they are not familiar with my references to literature and art
- Being spiritual/religious and having some semi-unusual metaphysical philosophies, which means many religious people don't get me either
- My sense of humor is either sardonic or involves silly puns/wordplay, which can end up with me sticking my foot in my mouth. I don't laugh at humor that I don't find truly funny, so sometimes people think I am serious when I find their humor lame.
- I talk about random theories and stuff I've read, which they often don't know about
- I put effort into my appearance and people may assume I am vain or a snob
If we lived close I imagine we could be BFFs. I'm really curious about your semi-unusual metaphysical ideas/concepts. While I identify as ignostic - agnostic pandeist/panendeist with strong Humanist leanings, I entertain all sorts of concepts, many of them Eastern and "Pagan" in nature. Comparative religion and metaphysical/mythological cosmology are my fields of study, so I get all giddy when I get to engage in these conversations with others.
Women who claim they like guys with tattoos generally make me lose interest in them real fast.
Totally into men (and women) with tattoos, but have dated very few men with tattoos. All serious partners either have no tattoos or only a handful that can be easily covered. My husband doesn't have any and no plans on getting any.
Totally into men (and women) with tattoos, but have dated very few men with tattoos. All serious partners either have no tattoos or only a handful that can be easily covered. My husband doesn't have any and no plans on getting any.
I have two dozen and counting.
Usually when I'm talking to a woman and she shows me her tattoo. I just tell her we are not compatible because I don't like women who tattoos. She gave me a "Like really" look. Women reject men off little things, I do the same to women.
Usually when I'm talking to a woman and she shows me her tattoo. I just tell her we are not compatible because I don't like women who tattoos. She gave me a "Like really" look. Women reject men off little things, I do the same to women.
It's a preference like any other. Just like height, body type, appearance, etc.
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