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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Raena77
Sounds horrible to do the casual online. And people can figure out who you are . I've had coworker spot other coworkers online. We even saw a lady coworker singing on utube songs horribly .Sad thing is she thought she was great.
Even without a pic you can connect the dots for some.
But at least you are honest with your net lady friends.
I dunno, these friends don't put much in their casual profiles to connect the dots to. They have some pictures of themselves with faces obscured, and answer a bunch of questions, then they respond to the guys they're interested in.
With me though, yeah, of course, stating you're ideally looking for a monogamous relationship does drive people away though. I lost count on the number of people I've received messages from over the year that were cool, and said they thought I seem cool, but they're in open marriages or just poly and wished I was open to that. I met one of my newest friends that way, she is married, in an open relationship, we work in a related field and just kept chatting and met, platonic ally, and just keep hanging out. I would have been interested if she was single and monogamous.
I dunno, these friends don't put much in their casual profiles to connect the dots to. They have some pictures of themselves with faces obscured, and answer a bunch of questions, then they respond to the guys they're interested in.
With me though, yeah, of course, stating you're ideally looking for a monogamous relationship does drive people away though. I lost count on the number of people I've received messages from over the year that were cool, and said they thought I seem cool, but they're in open marriages or just poly and wished I was open to that. I met one of my newest friends that way, she is married, in an open relationship, we work in a related field and just kept chatting and met, platonic ally, and just keep hanging out. I would have been interested if she was single and monogamous.
Ewww they are women!?
I don't understand these open relationships.I mean I don't want my husband having sex with some random lady.Things happen and boop there's a kid.Explain that?
I have met some cool people from online as well.Even on here and we chat still.
Meeting interesting people online is fun.Dating and the disappointment isnt.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Ewww they are women!?
I don't understand these open relationships.I mean I don't want my husband having sex with some random lady.Things happen and boop there's a kid.Explain that?
I have met some cool people from online as well.Even on here and we chat still.
Meeting interesting people online is fun.Dating and the disappointment isnt.
Why is that ew? Women use Tinder, OKC, whatever for casual sex too. It can be far more efficient than going out to a bar and seeing what is there.
And open relationships aren't for me, but they are for a fair number of people. Each to their own. This friend usually plays with her husband and others, but not always. There are all types in the world.
I don't know what there would be to explain. Pregnancy is easy to avoid. Really easy.
I don't understand why people are so complicated and exacting. Who wants to keep up with 2 profiles...?! I never had a specific relationship indicated, it depends on who the person is when I meet them and how we relate, what chemistry, etc. Why narrow your field down so much? You might not indicate 'serious' 'LTR' or mention monogamous, attract and meet someone who had no intention of having an LTR, and the chemistry is there that ultimately is used for the relationship decision. I don't know what I want until I meet them and get to know them. Just like IRL.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I don't understand why people are so complicated and exacting. Who wants to keep up with 2 profiles...?! I never had a specific relationship indicated, it depends on who the person is when I meet them and how we relate, what chemistry, etc. Why narrow your field down so much? You might not indicate 'serious' 'LTR' or mention monogamous, attract and meet someone who had no intention of having an LTR, and the chemistry is there that ultimately is used for the relationship decision. I don't know what I want until I meet them and get to know them. Just like IRL.
I think they see it as practicality and expanding their field. One they use specifically when they're just horny, and are more honest and direct with sexual wants/needs/desires. The other is more tame, and less, um, direct. It's still them, just used differently.
One, a person I dated for a bit, has very specific sexual needs when it comes to casual sex, which she doesn't so much have in a relationship. People can be complex.
I'm, relatively speaking, a rather simple guy, thankfully.
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From "As Good As It Gets"
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