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Put on a second pair of socks and ask the girl if she would go out on a date with you on a specific day, at a specific time, to a specific restaurant.
This is a very good point. Don't be vague and suggest "hanging out sometime". The more clear you are, the less confusion about your intentions.
And all it boils down to is asking a yes or no question. If you get a yes, great, if not, oh well. It doesn't have to be the big deal you're making it out to be. I'd say the majority of people you are interested in or ask out will not feel the same way about you. If you know that going in, then you don't need to have cold feet or be devastated by a simple no.
I'm straightforward. If they say no or give me some unclear answer I forget about them.
Unfortunately, this seems to be the norm.
I've had many situations where I'd ask the girl out and get an answer that's highly suggestive of a blow-off ("We should hang out in a group first", "Get to know each other better first", etc).
Then, she comes around at her leisure and decides to become interested when I no longer am.
I think most women just like playing games and want someone to chase after them.
This is a very good point. Don't be vague and suggest "hanging out sometime". The more clear you are, the less confusion about your intentions.
And all it boils down to is asking a yes or no question. If you get a yes, great, if not, oh well. It doesn't have to be the big deal you're making it out to be. I'd say the majority of people you are interested in or ask out will not feel the same way about you. If you know that going in, then you don't need to have cold feet or be devastated by a simple no.
That's very easy for a woman to say (since women never have to put themselves out there like that).
I've had many situations where I'd ask the girl out and get an answer that's highly suggestive of a blow-off ("We should hang out in a group first", "Get to know each other better first", etc).
Then, she comes around at her leisure and decides to become interested when I no longer am.
I think most women just like playing games and want someone to chase after them.
I am not the type to chase a woman or kiss her a** I don't care how hot she is. I prefer women be direct and not make lame excuses. You don't like me? Say so. I'll leave her alone after that.
I've had many situations where I'd ask the girl out and get an answer that's highly suggestive of a blow-off ("We should hang out in a group first", "Get to know each other better first", etc).
Then, she comes around at her leisure and decides to become interested when I no longer am.
I think most women just like playing games and want someone to chase after them.
It's a shame you think this mate
Yes a few will do this and enjoy it but for the vast majority of women it's simply not worth their time to play games.
Looking at this from the opposite side, I can say that if any woman came up to me and asked me out, it would be game-over for her. I have never asked a woman out. All the relationships I've had were based on being involved in the same activity and then recognizing the mutual interest we had in each other. No one asked the other out. We just began doing things together. Two people who are well-suited for each other, are much more likely to meet in this way, than by one person making a move on another, when they may have little in common.
When I've started relationships with women, we might have had classes together at a university, worked at the same place or exercised at the same fitness club or running track. A couple of times, we lived together in the same house, along with several other single people. Sometimes, it was because we had mutual friends and found ourselves in each other's company. One amazing evening, a woman and I had been asked to help move some friends to a new apartment. We looked at each other and without a moment's hesitation, we paired up and carried things together. Before the evening was over, we were a couple. We both knew it and neither had to say a word about it. This natural, unforced way to start relationships, is the way our species has done it since the beginning. Our ancient ancestors didn't ask one another out, they just recognized the obvious attraction and went at it.
Looking at this from the opposite side, I can say that if any woman came up to me and asked me out, it would be game-over for her. I have never asked a woman out. All the relationships I've had were based on being involved in the same activity and then recognizing the mutual interest we had in each other. No one asked the other out. We just began doing things together. Two people who are well-suited for each other, are much more likely to meet in this way, than by one person making a move on another, when they may have little in common.
When I've started relationships with women, we might have had classes together at a university, worked at the same place or exercised at the same fitness club or running track. A couple of times, we lived together in the same house, along with several other single people. Sometimes, it was because we had mutual friends and found ourselves in each other's company. One amazing evening, a woman and I had been asked to help move some friends to a new apartment. We looked at each other and without a moment's hesitation, we paired up and carried things together. Before the evening was over, we were a couple. We both knew it and neither had to say a word about it. This natural, unforced way to start relationships, is the way our species has done it since the beginning. Our ancient ancestors didn't ask one another out, they just recognized the obvious attraction and went at it.
This is the answer I was looking for. There's something so unnatural about asking a girl out.
This is the answer I was looking for. There's something so unnatural about asking a girl out.
Of course it's the answer you're looking for. You're apparently terrified of stepping out of your comfort zone and making yourself vulnerable. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you're going to accidentally find a girlfriend.
Our "ancient ancestors" may have accidentally rolled over onto each other and propagated the species, but with 7 billion people on the planet now, you should consider the possibility that you MAY have to put in some effort to get a date.
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