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So I've been on six dates now with this girl over the past three weeks, and I really like her. We've gone to dinner, watched sporting events at a bar, had movie night at my place, and have gone to a few hockey games (she loves hockey). We haven't slept together yet, but each date has ended with some good night kissing, and there's been a lot of holding/snuggling on each date.
We are getting together again next Friday, and this will be date number seven and about the one month mark since we first met in person (we texted back and forth for a month prior) while I was in the process of relocating to our city for my job. I really want to let her know that I like her a lot, and that right now, I don't want to date anyone else except for her. Is it still a bit too soon for that or should I just be upfront and honest with her?
If you ask now, it could be the kiss of death. She might see that as a lack of confidence. It's only been a few weeks. When a girl is interested in a guy she thinks is a catch, she is not going to date other guys. IMO, you should sleep with her first then ask. Don't kill the attraction yet.
6 dates in 3 weeks? You don't know enough about her.
This is the same girl that you indicated was giving you mixed signals and had not advanced very far physically. There are doubts. So why, all of the sudden, are you trying to get her into a commitment.
Oh, wait! That's why.
She is sending mixed signals and you do have doubts. Therefore, if you ask her for a commitment, you won't have to work so hard and you'll have assurances she won't go out with others.
That is absolutely the WRONG way to go about it.
So, whereas I don't believe sex is the end all/be all of relationships, I would, in this case, wait until you develop an intimate relationship before even thinking about bringing up the idea. What you are considering smacks of desperation. If you had any doubts before, asking her this early should seal those doubts....for her.
I think it is too early to ask this question after three weeks. I would wait until you sleep together, preferably a few times. If you are still together after that then by all means, ask.
Not too early at all....she might feel relieved and welcome it.
If not, she'll at least know what you desire in a relationship.
Like others said...honesty is the best policy.
it seems backwards to have sex first and then ask about being exclusive. Ideally you don't want to be sleeping with someone who could be sleeping with other people at the same time.
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