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Unless this is a Yankee fan married to a BoSox fan and it's late September (), absolutely no excuse! This is childish, and anger management/counseling is called for.
In my search for some unbiased advice, I stumbled upon this forum. My husband and I have been married 4 years, together almost 9 years. We have a passionate, romantic, somewhat turbulent past. We are both stubborn and fiery. When we fight, he resorts to raising his voice and hurtful words. It started with "pyscho" and "I don't care, then, leave" "don't come back". He would apologize after the silent treatment and that was it. We fight more than once every 2 years though, more like every 2 months. Our fights took a turn recently, he said in December, "he wished he could bash my head in" and then in January, "he wished he could stick his fork in my head". You're horrified I know, but he's never been violent and I know without a doubt he would never harm me physically. Now, we have a baby, I told him he can't fight with me infront of her and what has he done now in the short time she's been born, nothing but raise his voice. Today was the worst, I merely asked for clarification and he in his stuborness would not elaborate and got aggitated. Began yelling because I got frustrated and banging the chair on the floor, at which point, the baby began crying hysterically. I was so mad that he once again let me down, I wasn't thinking and pushed him (gently, I know I'm wrong too) out my way to get the baby in which he responded by pushing me back. Had I not been in the shape I am, I would have fell and it left my arm throbbing. I swooped up the baby and left. I have no one to talk to. I don't want to call family because I know I will go back and everyone will look at him as an abusive partner, which he is, but not physically. Is there anyway to improve? Am i to blame, did I push him over the edge? Can someone like this get help and change? Despite all the mean things he says or does, I can't help but love him so much.
Most areas have anger management classes. Family Services could probably point you in the right direction. Good luck!
By-the-way, it's NOT normal nor healthy. I've never raised my voice to my wife nor her to me. Same with my late wife. Now my ex, as I was clearing some of my tools out of our garage during the divorce, she started ragging on me about not taking something or another. For the first time in 30 years of being together, I said, "f-you." That sure got her attention, and she immediately left me alone.
'crazy' and/or 'b*tch' during a heated argument? What about throwing a glass at the wall and shattering it and punching a hole in a door? To me these seem way over the top under any circumstances. Just wondering what others think.
My husband and I would not be married if this were the ways things went during a heated argument.
Now, we get mad at each other and say stupid stuff, but nothing like you suggested. If my hubby ever called me the b-word he would be in the dog house, literally!!!
'crazy' and/or 'b*tch' during a heated argument? What about throwing a glass at the wall and shattering it and punching a hole in a door? To me these seem way over the top under any circumstances. Just wondering what others think.
I think they might have an anger management problem, or a mate that is simply pushing their buttons? Some people are not able to sit down and discuse a disagreement like an adult, and others are so stagnated, they think if someone does not think like they do, they take it as a personal attack against their character. Sad.
'crazy' and/or 'b*tch' during a heated argument? What about throwing a glass at the wall and shattering it and punching a hole in a door? To me these seem way over the top under any circumstances. Just wondering what others think.
No, this kind of behaviour is unacceptable. Words can hurt much as physical abuse.
I could cope with "crazy" ( maybe it hasn't got the same connotations in the UK) but B.i.t.c.h would mean me out of the door for good.
I think some words are absolutely unacceptable and can never be taken back .
We all say things we regret in the heat of the moment but there has to be a line drawn at some point. Even in the most heated of arguments we still need to retain a form of respect for the other person or to me it shows the relationship has deteriorated beyond repair.
I have had some serious arguments with my fiance ( we've been together for 20 years) but have never crossed that line.
Respect is paramount, otherwise the damage is to me anyway irreparable.
If you are calling someone you are supposed to love all kinds of abusive words then I suspect love has long left the building. One can show great anger without turning abusive.
'crazy' and/or 'b*tch' during a heated argument? What about throwing a glass at the wall and shattering it and punching a hole in a door? To me these seem way over the top under any circumstances. Just wondering what others think.
I think due to Merrideth whatever's song, many women happilly refer to themselves in that way nowadays.
'crazy' and/or 'b*tch' during a heated argument? What about throwing a glass at the wall and shattering it and punching a hole in a door? To me these seem way over the top under any circumstances. Just wondering what others think.
I don't have an issue with 'crazy.' But the rest? Absolutely not. I have never called my wife a name of any description. And I certainly have never resorted to throwing or hitting--even if it was an inanimate object. I just don't understand people who lose their temper.
that signifies a lack of respect. what kind of relationship can two people have (intimate or otherwise) when they dont respect eachother?
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), absolutely no excuse! This is childish, and anger management/counseling is called for.
