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Hello all. Ok to begin with... I will tell you why I'm being insecure it's all begin after finding out my husband constantly checks out his co worker Facebook page and me catching him look at girls from his faculty (on FB as well). I used to be very confident about my looks too, I'm a 34D 5'7" slim figure woman and all his friends kept telling him that I'm attractive. But the girls (from work) I caught him looking was short and fat. So tell me how can I not be insecure. I recently also found out he had a fake Instagram account which he added "Real Instagram Girls" and click likes on all the big breasted girls in their bikini pictures!!!!!! I could care less if he watches porno or look at pornstar naked pictures online, BUT these are real girls with real account on Instagram. And so i start going through his other accounts and found 2 comments he made which really pisses me off to a point that I just wanted to leave him. Ok so the comments are both for a pictures saying "husband not getting enough sex from wife" - He wrote "At times calling an escort is actually cheaper....True story" and the second comment - he wrote "had sex only 12 times a year (which is not true!!!) I could have save up and get an escort so my sex life is 100 times better".
WTF!!!!! So I confronted him and he said it's just a funny website and people post funny response, also he said I wouldn't put out so he was mad and wrote something stupid online. Anyone here can tell me whether I'm overrracting so does he really means he will do this in the future?!!! I would appreciate to get an opinion from both men and women!! I asked him what he meant by "true story" he said he heard it from a guy before and that's why he wrote that...seriously...is that believable?
I was just so disgusted by his actions, I chose him as my husband is because I thought he was caring and will only love me, find me attractive but now he's showing me the other side of him!!!! Should I leave him before he cheats on me?! Help please!!!!
He sounds a bit immature. And strange. But you also sound a bit that way too. I mean, I have a guy friend who is very happily married. He looks at those instagram accounts as well, and likes the pics ( he a contact on mine, so I can see, as can everyone else, including his wife). He is also the nicest guy and very faithful to his wife. I don't think this is your issue.
This has nothing to do with your looks. There will always be someone prettier than you. No matter who you are. The fact you feel the need to snoop around speaks volumes here. and honestly you just sound like a bit of a mess. Of course he finds others attractive, so do you. Doesn't mean he will cheat on you. But you have issues here, snooping, being insecure, etc. As far as his comments, who knows. But it sounds like your relationship isn't that great at the moment.
Time for an STD test. Not joking. Demand an STD test from him. He has hired escorts. 10001% sure of that. He is a sex addict. Don't know how he lasted with you. If it does seem the sex is not as regular as he wants which I would presume is everyday.
How long have you two been married and how long did you date before marriage? Your husband sounds like he needs to grow up and honestly, if my husband did that I'd kick his a** out!
I'd be concerned if I were you but just because he posted stupid stuff online and looked at women doesn't mean he's actually done anything in real life. Maybe being with an escort is a fantasy of his but thinking and doing are two very different things.
He's definitely bored and searching for something so I wouldn't ignore what's going on but just based on what you wrote I don't see definitive proof that he's a cheater or going to cheat.
I'd be concerned if I were you but just because he posted stupid stuff online and looked at women doesn't mean he's actually done anything in real life. Maybe being with an escort is a fantasy of his but thinking and doing are two very different things.
He's definitely bored and searching for something so I wouldn't ignore what's going on but just based on what you wrote I don't see definitive proof that he's a cheater or going to cheat.
I agree with this very level headed reasoning...
If his behavior is bothering you it is still a valid issue to bring up. He should respect that and work with you as a couple. Need to talk it out. Keep in mind, I think it is totally normal for guys to consume internet porn.. it doesn't necessarily mean that they are cheating. On the other hand, that has to be balanced with what you are comfortable accepting into the relationship.
I would also be concerned that he is harboring sexual fantasies regarding his coworkers and faculty. This is a bit different from consuming internet porn.
It is true that a large portion of the working girls' clients I know are married "dealing" with unsatisfactory sex lives at home. Whether that "story" is describing himself or some arbitrary person he heard of is unknown. You simply should try to confront him on the issue as a concern for your marriage and yourself (rather than assigning blame an accusation to avoid escalation as much as possible). If you have access to bank account information, you should also see cash withdrawals generally in the amount of $100-$400 at a time.
Hello all. Ok to begin with... I will tell you why I'm being insecure it's all begin after finding out my husband constantly checks out his co worker Facebook page and me catching him look at girls from his faculty (on FB as well). I used to be very confident about my looks too, I'm a 34D 5'7" slim figure woman and all his friends kept telling him that I'm attractive. But the girls (from work) I caught him looking was short and fat. So tell me how can I not be insecure. I recently also found out he had a fake Instagram account which he added "Real Instagram Girls" and click likes on all the big breasted girls in their bikini pictures!!!!!! I could care less if he watches porno or look at pornstar naked pictures online, BUT these are real girls with real account on Instagram. And so i start going through his other accounts and found 2 comments he made which really pisses me off to a point that I just wanted to leave him. Ok so the comments are both for a pictures saying "husband not getting enough sex from wife" - He wrote "At times calling an escort is actually cheaper....True story" and the second comment - he wrote "had sex only 12 times a year (which is not true!!!) I could have save up and get an escort so my sex life is 100 times better".
WTF!!!!! So I confronted him and he said it's just a funny website and people post funny response, also he said I wouldn't put out so he was mad and wrote something stupid online. Anyone here can tell me whether I'm overrracting so does he really means he will do this in the future?!!! I would appreciate to get an opinion from both men and women!! I asked him what he meant by "true story" he said he heard it from a guy before and that's why he wrote that...seriously...is that believable?
I was just so disgusted by his actions, I chose him as my husband is because I thought he was caring and will only love me, find me attractive but now he's showing me the other side of him!!!! Should I leave him before he cheats on me?! Help please!!!!
This is your husband? ((hugs)) I am so sorry. I will pray for you both
Just want to say...you need to care that he is looking at porn, and yes, those are real girls just like those girls on instagram. Porn feeds this. Either get rid of the computer like you should, or at the very least, place it into the living room for a while. He might be able to beat this perverted compulsion. If not, you'll have to forbid bringing porn into the home via a computer. Blessings to you. Hang in there
Hello all. Ok to begin with... I will tell you why I'm being insecure it's all begin after finding out my husband constantly checks out his co worker Facebook page and me catching him look at girls from his faculty (on FB as well). I used to be very confident about my looks too, I'm a 34D 5'7" slim figure woman and all his friends kept telling him that I'm attractive. But the girls (from work) I caught him looking was short and fat. So tell me how can I not be insecure. I recently also found out he had a fake Instagram account which he added "Real Instagram Girls" and click likes on all the big breasted girls in their bikini pictures!!!!!! I could care less if he watches porno or look at pornstar naked pictures online, BUT these are real girls with real account on Instagram. And so i start going through his other accounts and found 2 comments he made which really pisses me off to a point that I just wanted to leave him. Ok so the comments are both for a pictures saying "husband not getting enough sex from wife" - He wrote "At times calling an escort is actually cheaper....True story" and the second comment - he wrote "had sex only 12 times a year (which is not true!!!) I could have save up and get an escort so my sex life is 100 times better".
WTF!!!!! So I confronted him and he said it's just a funny website and people post funny response, also he said I wouldn't put out so he was mad and wrote something stupid online. Anyone here can tell me whether I'm overrracting so does he really means he will do this in the future?!!! I would appreciate to get an opinion from both men and women!! I asked him what he meant by "true story" he said he heard it from a guy before and that's why he wrote that...seriously...is that believable?
I was just so disgusted by his actions, I chose him as my husband is because I thought he was caring and will only love me, find me attractive but now he's showing me the other side of him!!!! Should I leave him before he cheats on me?! Help please!!!!
I am very sorry. I don't know what else to say. What a jerk.
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