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Well, had a couple of pretty severe back-to-back injuries in 2009. I walk with a cane, have tremors and a minor intermittent stutter. Truthfully, if you didn't know my story, most people would think I have MS or a touch of cerebral palsy. I am still strong, energetic, independent, drive, work, etc.
But the deal-killer dating-wise is that I sustained a pretty bad head injury and there was some neurological fallout, including ED. Everything including minor surgery has been tried. I already lost my wife because of this and it's hard to imagine I'm going to attract anyone else.
I'm 6'2" and yeah, full head of hair...not even any balding spots or a receeding hairline. Is that good enough to be a selling point to someone you think? 😀
With your weight having peaked at 540 lbs (!) - that probably has something to do with the ED. You need to get to a healthy weight anyway, in doing so, it just might be that the ED problem goes away with the weight. Maybe.
With your weight having peaked at 540 lbs (!) - that probably has something to do with the ED. You need to get to a healthy weight anyway, in doing so, it just might be that the ED problem goes away with the weight. Maybe.
Nah, even at my heaviest I was a dynamo, to be candid about it.
The first accident happened and boom...like a light got flicked off. Every doc and specialist has attributed the ED to the head injury, though I also dislocated the right side of my body at the shoulder, knee and hip.
With your weight having peaked at 540 lbs (!) - that probably has something to do with the ED. You need to get to a healthy weight anyway, in doing so, it just might be that the ED problem goes away with the weight. Maybe.
He said he is 6'2" and a little bit under 250, and planning to lose 50 more pounds.
Well my goodness, an attractive 49-year-old man at that height and working on his physique with a full head of hair and a desire for emotional intimacy and partnership will sound like a dream come true to many women who are past the menopause for whom intercourse is painful. Ask me how I know. I am of that age and I hear this not only in my work but among my friends. They want the companionship, romance, and love, but despise the Viagra and rue the day it was created. Okay, many women my age also still want and enjoy intercourse and those women may not be a good match but I can PROMISE you there are many who would think Griffis is the answer to a prayer!
Well, had a couple of pretty severe back-to-back injuries in 2009. I walk with a cane, have tremors and a minor intermittent stutter. Truthfully, if you didn't know my story, most people would think I have MS or a touch of cerebral palsy. I am still strong, energetic, independent, drive, work, etc.
But the deal-killer dating-wise is that I sustained a pretty bad head injury and there was some neurological fallout, including ED. Everything including minor surgery has been tried. I already lost my wife because of this and it's hard to imagine I'm going to attract anyone else.
I'm 6'2" and yeah, full head of hair...not even any balding spots or a receeding hairline. Is that good enough to be a selling point to someone you think? 😀
Please do not give up. Please see my post above. If you are a good man and you like affection, none of these things should get in the way of a good woman who likes affection. I hear this every day. It would not bother me either as long as I find the man attractive, he is a good kisser, and he is willing to give and receive what he can. I could absolutely live without "all the way" and so can many women in our "play group."
Please do not give up. Please see my post above. If you are a good man and you like affection, none of these things should get in the way of a good woman who likes affection. I hear this every day. It would not bother me either as long as I find the man attractive, he is a good kisser, and he is willing to give and receive what he can. I could absolutely live without "all the way" and so can many women in our "play group."
Goodness, you are too kind! Making me blush over here...
I am told I am a good kisser and I am definitely affectionate and, hopefully, a giver. But the tremors and difficulty walking, etc., I would think most women would not really want to be seen with me, and I completely understand that.
Everyone has their little baggage of problems. I have met tons of guys who told me about their issues when we met - of course you do not list everything online and disqualify yourself to most.
So if not online dating, how else do you think you meet women? How tall are you, 240 doesn't sound that bad. And hey, you still HAVE hair!
Wow, if hair and not being overweight are what qualifies a man in his 40's, I guess I really need to move to find the women who appreciate that. I find women to have A.D.D. when it comes to dating nowadays due to the internet and looking for the bigger better deal. I do think I have a hard time due to location, but its also a cultural change over the last 10 years or so with online dating going mainstream. You'd think it would be easier, but in fact its much harder just to keep someone's attention. I'm 48, no kids, 6'0", 200 pounds, professional, full head of hair, into personal growth, yada yada yada. Doesn't seem to make much of a difference.
Griffis, I feel for ya man. Its hard for most of us. Not that misery loves company, but maybe you can take some comfort in knowing you're not the only one who struggles.
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