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It also is an issue that he wants a much younger woman and to start a family ASAP. He is 50 now, and to have a baby he will be nearing 70 when the child graduates, nor do women now want to take care of much older husbands.
He would have better luck if he wanted to date and marry the 45-52 year old woman that just wants companionship.
No, I am NOT 50. Get your facts right at least before piling on.
Look, I'll be the first to admit that I probably am looking for a unicorn, but not in the ways you described. As I've gotten older, I've learned to be flexible about a lot of things, such as looks. But I've also learned the hard way just how important it is to know when not to be flexible. I'm not a religious or even spiritual person so I would never compatible with someone who is. I'm a staunch liberal and would never be compatible with a conservative. Maybe other people have managed to work around such differences and I applaud them. But my own experience has shown that it doesn't work. And, as I stated above, I don't want kids. Kinda hard to compromise on that one. So to sum up:
Late 30s/early 40s
Childfree and doesn't want children
Liberal
Not too religious
Doesn't smoke
And that's before getting into things like looks, personality, hobbies and interests, etc.
My friend is all those things... Wanna move to Texas? Lol.
And that is ok. I am a single mom and I won't date men with kids, for all the reasons you state, plus a few others.
Not trying to hijack this thread, but I'm curious about your reasons. I'm a single mom (widowed = no break ever) so time is obviously a huge issues. I'm dating a man without kids who claims he wants them but I'm just not getting a family man vibe off him. I was thinking that maybe I should be dating men with kids so at least they understand all that's involved in being a parent.
Not trying to hijack this thread, but I'm curious about your reasons. I'm a single mom (widowed = no break ever) so time is obviously a huge issues. I'm dating a man without kids who claims he wants them but I'm just not getting a family man vibe off him. I was thinking that maybe I should be dating men with kids so at least they understand all that's involved in being a parent.
It is exceptionally hard to incorporate a man into an already established family, it is even harder to attempt to blend additional kids into the mix. The few times I have dated men with children, it was an issue with the kids fighting for attention. For instance, the mans children wanted the attention of a "mom", but my kids struggled with sharing. Or my children would want the "dad" type attention and he would treat his own children different then mine, which would cause arguments.
I find it easier to date men that do not have children, and that are willing to devote their attention to just my kids.
ETA- I have my oldest 100% of the time, and my youngest all but 4 overnights a month. Your kids might have some of the same thoughts my children experience with not having a father in their lives.
I am currently dating a man with no kids, that is happy to devote his time and energy to mine. He is sure that two kids is plenty and does not need to have his own biological kids. He is very active with my children. He even takes off when they have medical situations that require surgery and hospital stays. He has sat a many of night in the hospital, when my sons bio dad cannot even be bothered to show up.
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