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He said he is 6'2" and a little bit under 250, and planning to lose 50 more pounds.
Well my goodness, an attractive 49-year-old man at that height and working on his physique with a full head of hair and a desire for emotional intimacy and partnership will sound like a dream come true to many women who are past the menopause for whom intercourse is painful. Ask me how I know. I am of that age and I hear this not only in my work but among my friends. They want the companionship, romance, and love, but despise the Viagra and rue the day it was created. Okay, many women my age also still want and enjoy intercourse and those women may not be a good match but I can PROMISE you there are many who would think Griffis is the answer to a prayer!
Hear this, Griff? You're hot property! Aren't you glad you joined C-D?
Wow, if hair and not being overweight are what qualifies a man in his 40's, I guess I really need to move to find the women who appreciate that. I find women to have A.D.D. when it comes to dating nowadays due to the internet and looking for the bigger better deal. I do think I have a hard time due to location, but its also a cultural change over the last 10 years or so with online dating going mainstream. You'd think it would be easier, but in fact its much harder just to keep someone's attention. I'm 48, no kids, 6'0", 200 pounds, professional, full head of hair, into personal growth, yada yada yada. Doesn't seem to make much of a difference.
Griffis, I feel for ya man. Its hard for most of us. Not that misery loves company, but maybe you can take some comfort in knowing you're not the nly one who struggles.
You area plays a significant role in your dating experiences. Surely you had better experiences in ATL?
I don't know why you keep calling women by the above description "unicorns". The West Coast is full of them! Where do you live? Maybe you should consider relocating. And while we're at it, let's throw in "in shape" and "well educated". LOTS of women in your age range that are the whole package, in the western states. This is where the herds of unicorns hang out.
You area plays a significant role in your dating experiences. Surely you had better experiences in ATL?
Eh, yes, but the last time I dated a lot there was when I was in my early 30's when I met my ex-wife. Divorced at 40 and unemployed, so no, I didn't date much. I was a wreck. I dated sporadically and then moved to the armpit of America 4 1/2 years ago. Its been bad ever since. I'm trying to move back to Atl, but it isn't that simple. I won't move without a job to go to, and a long distance search 1000 miles away is hard. But the dating world has changed so much now, who knows if I'd have luck there in 2017. I have now idea at this point.
That's too bad. But at least, now you know where the unicorn herds are. Maybe you could take some vacations out West, after scoping out OLD sites out there.
Wow, if hair and not being overweight are what qualifies a man in his 40's, I guess I really need to move to find the women who appreciate that. I find women to have A.D.D. when it comes to dating nowadays due to the internet and looking for the bigger better deal. I do think I have a hard time due to location, but its also a cultural change over the last 10 years or so with online dating going mainstream. You'd think it would be easier, but in fact its much harder just to keep someone's attention. I'm 48, no kids, 6'0", 200 pounds, professional, full head of hair, into personal growth, yada yada yada. Doesn't seem to make much of a difference.
Griffis, I feel for ya man. Its hard for most of us. Not that misery loves company, but maybe you can take some comfort in knowing you're not the only one who struggles.
Altguy, I've followed your story probably since you moved to OKC and feel for you too. You seem like a good guy, certainly bright, never have heard you be disrespectful towards women, seem to be looking for a real companion and not just endless hookups...being eligible to date wasn't in my sphere until recently, but since then I've felt like "Man, if this guy can't find someone, what chance do I have?!?"
I know I'm nothing special, as far as being alone and not finding someone (and it's true I just started looking, really) but the struggle is real, man. If I was still in the area (praise the gods I'm not) I'd definitely be down for shooting some pool and having a beer.
I wish you luck, brother. I think you'd make the right woman real happy. Maybe you just haven't run into each other yet.
Here's a newsflash for you. We're being honest. So please don't accuse me of lying just because you don't like what some of us prefer in a partner. Earlier, you argued that people have all kinds of constraints on their time. Except what you left out is that a lot of those things are subject to their control. If a person has hobbies, friends, a demanding job, they have control over how much time they devote to those things. But kids aren't the same thing. A single parent can't just cut back on time for her children so she can spend it with her boyfriend. I'm certainly not wanting or expecting a partner who can devote all her free time to me. Having dated a single mother in the past, I know what it's like. I didn't experience the horror stories other people describe. But I also know just how much harder it is to date a person with kids and decided it's just not something I want to deal with again.
And that is ok. I am a single mom and I won't date men with kids, for all the reasons you state, plus a few others.
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