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Allow me to disagree.. I live in a place where I had a hard time finding my kind of people, despite the fact that I'm quite outgoing. I moved here for work, not because I love the area. This is a small town with a more rural and conservative culture, and most people my age are married with kids; a large percentage of the locals are seniors, and those who are young and single are usually not college educated, which, for me, is a requirement. So yes, I am moving to a city to increase my chances of meeting someone, and no, I don't think that's desperate; I think it's logical.
This happens to be EXACTLY what I am dealing with Same story for me
I was always told to stop pursuing beautiful women out of my league due to me being small and wearing glasses, seeing as they only want handsome men. I followed that advice and it's saved me a ton of time and heartache.
That's like saying the entire US is all the same across the board, and everyone wants the same thing.
If I moved out of the declining population sausagefest rust belt I'd have more dates than I could ever want or need. I'm not a serial dater that's always looking for the better deal, so I don't really care...but if I moved the option would be there.
It takes me a lot of work to find someone I'm interested in, in my current area for a long term relationship.
I'm not going to find someone no matter where I go because of some fundamental issues in my wiring. My upbringing did not gear me for relationships. But I think geography can make a huge difference.
Once I moved to Denver, I basically found myself going on multiple dates every week. In Jersey, it was a struggle to even get one date. That said, Denver is what I would call "Pleasure Island" - between the breweries, the concerts, the outdoor activities (skiing, camping, hiking, etc.), the pot and a ton of other activities/options, no one really is looking to get married. People come here to have fun. I am good with that.
I'm not going to find someone no matter where I go because of some fundamental issues in my wiring. My upbringing did not gear me for relationships. But I think geography can make a huge difference.
Once I moved to Denver, I basically found myself going on multiple dates every week. In Jersey, it was a struggle to even get one date. That said, Denver is what I would call "Pleasure Island" - between the breweries, the concerts, the outdoor activities (skiing, camping, hiking, etc.), the pot and a ton of other activities/options, no one really is looking to get married. People come here to have fun. I am good with that.
I love Denver! Colorado is definitly one of my favorite states. I have been to Colorado twice. If I ever moved, I feel like it would either be there, Utah or somewhere in Europe. I especially love the scenery in Colorado. It's so refreshing compared to being surrounded by big buildings over here with barely any nature and no national parks around here. There are a good selection of museums in Denver worth visiting. I've been to about 4 or 5 museums so far. If you go on a Friday that happens to fall on the first day of the month, all museums are free for that day and sometimes they have little parties or events that day. I have done zip lining out there which at first was scary but then I got the hang out it. I especially loved going to one bar that had mechanical bull riding and live country music, I had such a blast lol.
I tried Native American food for the first time, I fell in love with fry bread. I can't get that anywhere out here unless there is a powwow that would be the only way. Even the burgers were orgasmic because they just tasted more fresh out there compared to here.
I haven't dated out there but I have noticed that I had more people that seemed into me so who knows if I stayed there longer than 2 weeks or put myself more out there then maybe I would have gone out on a date.
I love Denver! Colorado is definitly one of my favorite states. I have been to Colorado twice. If I ever moved, I feel like it would either be there, Utah or somewhere in Europe. I especially love the scenery in Colorado. It's so refreshing compared to being surrounded by big buildings over here with barely any nature and no national parks around here. There are a good selection of museums in Denver worth visiting. I've been to about 4 or 5 museums so far. If you go on a Friday that happens to fall on the first day of the month, all museums are free for that day and sometimes they have little parties or events that day. I have done zip lining out there which at first was scary but then I got the hang out it. I especially loved going to one bar that had mechanical bull riding and live country music, I had such a blast lol.
I tried Native American food for the first time, I fell in love with fry bread. I can't get that anywhere out here unless there is a powwow that would be the only way. Even the burgers were orgasmic because they just tasted more fresh out there compared to here.
I haven't dated out there but I have noticed that I had more people that seemed into me so who knows if I stayed there longer than 2 weeks or put myself more out there then maybe I would have gone out on a date.
It kind of IS paradise for a certain type of person. It's really hard to be bored here.
It kind of IS paradise for a certain type of person. It's really hard to be bored here.
Yeah definitely! My family and friends don't seem to get what the hype is about Colorado but for me I love it lol. Even though there is a lot to do in NYC, I just feel like there are more options out west. Plus I can't do white water rafting out here, explore ghost towns, no Rocky Mountains etc. Strangers were very friendly with me, telling me good morning and having small conversation with me. I don't get that out here if anything there are a lot of rude individuals who look for fights half of the time lol. Now I miss Colorado like crazy. I wish I could go there sometime this year. Last time I've been there was about 3 years ago.
My odds would be the same anywhere, good sir or indeed madam, because the situation wouldn't change. I don't 'put myself out there', as the saying goes, nor do I play the game at all. I'm much too busy figuring out how to be the best version of me to make time or space for anyone else in a life that's solitary by design.
I think this is true only in the context of population density. When there are more people to meet, it is easier to meet more people.
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Same story for me
I wish I could go there sometime this year. Last time I've been there was about 3 years ago.
