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I'm noticing most people don't follow their own dating advice. Both genders are guilty.
Guys will talk all this trash about woman's looks, then turn around and marry someone average. They might also talk trash about other guys who let their wife or girlfriend control them.. then those same guys will get in a relationship and let themselves be controlled.
Women do the same thing with their long essays and lists of qualities a man MUST have to be worth dating and marrying. Then the same woman will turn around and marry someone without those qualities later. They also talk about refusing to settle for less than they deserve. But later they settle for less than they deserve lol.
Anyone else notice this?
Its like I almost don't even take anyone seriously anymore when they give dating advice.
It’s not hypocrisy so much as it is people mature and reality sets in.
I don’t take dating advice seriously from the young and inexperienced. The people to go to are older, successful in their relationships couples that have a firm grasp on the reality of the human condition.
I'm noticing most people don't follow their own dating advice. Both genders are guilty.
Guys will talk all this trash about woman's looks, then turn around and marry someone average. They might also talk trash about other guys who let their wife or girlfriend control them.. then those same guys will get in a relationship and let themselves be controlled.
Women do the same thing with their long essays and lists of qualities a man MUST have to be worth dating and marrying. Then the same woman will turn around and marry someone without those qualities later. They also talk about refusing to settle for less than they deserve. But later they settle for less than they deserve lol.
Anyone else notice this?
Its like I almost don't even take anyone seriously anymore when they give dating advice.
RE: the bolded--because they've matured by the time they're seriously looking for a marriage partner.
"Control"? Maybe what you're perceiving as "control" is simply a married couple making compromises to accommodate each other into their lives. Married life is different from single life. That doesn't mean it's about "control".
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Guys marry very average looking women simply because they don't have any choice. The average women are the only ones who want them. As Bella says reality sets in and it is either dry d&%$ or settling for the best you can get.
Women do the same thing, settle for the best they have available to them. For them it is either no kids, or average family life with a painfully average guy.
People are hypocritical in general. Not just in dating. I don't listen to anyone's dating advice. The only advice I give is based on common sense. Learn from experience. Most of the time it's the best teacher, especially with dating.
Every single one of us has the tendency to be hypocritical over what we think vs what we actually do, it’s a human condition.
over time it will eventually catch up with us all once real world dynamics come in to play.
It’s important when receiving any type of advice to understand yourself and what may or may not actually work for you. Sometimes that means throwing everything at the wall and seeing what sticks until you have a better opinion of who you are.
“Advice” isn’t a solution, it’s a starting point. You have to be willing to listen to yourself before you listen to others for it to work “for” you.
It's not hypocrisy. People can only speak from the reality they stand in, that's all. And we are always evolving and growing. What we think we want, we might not know ourselves well enough to have a great idea of what we REALLY need and/or want. We get to look back on it and laugh at our younger, less wise selves. That is life, dude. You think anybody is born knowing it all?
I give a lot of advice around here, share a lot of stuff...but I know darn well that those who read it (and in fact no one is obligated to do so) can take it or leave it. If it helps, then cool, it helps. If it's useless, or a message that falls upon deaf ears, then that's fine too. I'm not so full of myself as to assume I know everything, or that what I say should be worthwhile to everybody. And I'm well aware I could look back on my worldview, in a few years, and it might not even be worthwhile to me!
Really, the point of all the advice isn't to tell you what to do, or who to be, so much as it's to give you stuff to think about. It's your life, at the end of the day you're going to do whatever you want. Reading advice and responding to it might just show you angles to see your situation that you might not have thought about before, that's all. There's only one person who can actually solve any of your problems.
RE: the bolded--because they've matured by the time they're seriously looking for a marriage partner.
"Control"? Maybe what you're perceiving as "control" is simply a married couple making compromises to accommodate each other into their lives. Married life is different from single life. That doesn't mean it's about "control".
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