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You've known each other for 6 months but have only spoken 3 times and, I'm going to assume, been on 0 dates??? Forget it!! Unless he's a Chris Hemsworth look-a-like then move on.
Read a few posts up and you'll know what's going on now.
This relationship sounds tiresome and tedious. Is it worth it? I’d find his lack of resilience and perpetual hesitancy a turnoff. Who needs a man they have to handle with kid gloves?
This relationship sounds tiresome and tedious. Is it worth it? I’d find his lack of resilience and perpetual hesitancy a turnoff. Who needs a man they have to handle with kid gloves?
Well, I want to try because he really is a great guy. We've really talked a lot even though mainly through texts. I want to give it a chance without entering it with too high expectations. I mean, there's nothing to lose and quite a lot to gain.
I don't know why you didn't go to the party. As long as the party wasn't 7 miles back down a dirt road in a swamp or something, you could have always left if there was a problem. It would have given you a chance to see what type of people he associates with as well.
I'm probably totally off base here, but the way you wrote everything, it sounds like you are the one with the trust issues, and for some reason you are saying it is him instead. He seems ready and willing to me.
I don't know why you didn't go to the party. As long as the party wasn't 7 miles back down a dirt road in a swamp or something, you could have always left if there was a problem. It would have given you a chance to see what type of people he associates with as well.
I'm probably totally off base here, but the way you wrote everything, it sounds like you are the one with the trust issues, and for some reason you are saying it is him instead. He seems ready and willing to me.
I know now that I should have gone there but I really didn't feel ready to spend quite a lot of time with strangers and a guy I barely knew. I regret it now but I can't turn back time.
When it comes to trust issues, yeah I'm not a person who easily trusts people, plus I'm shy around men so it doesn't make me an incredibly straightforward woman when it comes to expressing my feelings. And probably because of that he's moving slowly. However, he did tell me on a few occasions about his difficulties in trusting women due to his previous experience and I told him what I've just written about myself. I'm not really experienced in relationships so maybe my behaviour stops him from progressing faster. I'm going to meet with him again and we'll see.
Stop talking to him altogether. He is throwing crumbs at you, not giving you a date or personal time with him. Just sending out texts and messages. He may be using you temporarily because he is lonely or needs a shoulder to cry on.
Stop talking to him altogether. He is throwing crumbs at you, not giving you a date or personal time with him. Just sending out texts and messages. He may be using you temporarily because he is lonely or needs a shoulder to cry on.
Have you read the whole thread? I wrote a few posts back that we met yesterday and we're going to meet again next week. He's mentioned next week's meeting twice yesterday during the date and after that as well.
I know now that I should have gone there but I really didn't feel ready to spend quite a lot of time with strangers and a guy I barely knew. I regret it now but I can't turn back time.
When it comes to trust issues, yeah I'm not a person who easily trusts people, plus I'm shy around men so it doesn't make me an incredibly straightforward woman when it comes to expressing my feelings. And probably because of that he's moving slowly. However, he did tell me on a few occasions about his difficulties in trusting women due to his previous experience and I told him what I've just written about myself. I'm not really experienced in relationships so maybe my behaviour stops him from progressing faster. I'm going to meet with him again and we'll see.
I can easily relate to being shy. It's great that you are finally making contact, and I hope it works out.
If it doesn't, you have at least broken the ice on getting yourself out there and dating. Congratulations and best wishes!
^^^^^ One reason why people shouldn't just read and answer the opening post and not the thread.
Noted. But still
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Originally Posted by WomanInTheMirror
We've been messaging with each other for about 3 weeks now and we've known each other for about half a year but talked only a few times.
???? So you've known each other for 6 months but just had your first phone conversation 3 weeks ago? C'mon, is that what social interaction and courtship has been reduced to? Something is wrong. I think he's married.
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