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I had a boss who told some of us that she straight out told her husband that she MUST receive roses at work on Valentine's Day. When the flowers arrived, she paraded them around the office saying, "Look what MY hubby sent me!!!" As if any of us were impressed. Then she would ask, "Did any of you gals get anything??"r.
I have seen the same competition among women in the office/workplace. It's sickening. What's even more sickening is that if Valentine's Day falls on a weekend day, they'll have the flowers sent to them on Friday so everyone at the office will see them. Sickening. Can't believe women do that. These are women in their 30s, 40s and older acting like competitive teenaged girls about whose husband sent them the best bouquet.
It's all fake. It's a big swindle milked by advertisers and commercialised to make money for companies and people fall for it every year (much like the way Christmas has gone).
That's not to say you can't do something nice with your wife or girlfriend (on that day or the other 364 days a year), but it's the expectations of an overpriced card, overpriced flowers and an overpriced meal out for the profit of others and maybe another expensive gift expected on top of that depending on the girl. It's not the money you begrudge it's the forced nature of it.
All VD really is is a chance for retailers/the service industry to make money.
It's all fake. It's a big swindle milked by advertisers and commercialised to make money for companies and people fall for it every year (much like the way Christmas has gone).
That's not to say you can't do something nice with your wife or girlfriend (on that day or the other 364 days a year), but it's the expectations of an overpriced card, overpriced flowers and an overpriced meal out for the profit of others and maybe another expensive gift expected on top of that depending on the girl. It's not the money you begrudge it's the forced nature of it.
All VD really is is a chance for retailers/the service industry to make money.
Only if you think of it that way. It can also be a day for simple romantic gestures, a free picnic in the park for lunch (if on a weekend), and that sort of thing.
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It's kinda forced romanticism which I am not fond of either.
I think it's important for couples to discuss expectations and see if they are compatible on stuff like this.
I don't like going to dinner on VD because it's super crowded, and usually restaurants do prix fixe menu which to me can be one step above a buffet in quality.
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Only if you think of it that way. It can also be a day for simple romantic gestures, a free picnic in the park for lunch (if on a weekend) or dinner (if in the spring/summer/early fall), and that sort of thing.
That's what I mean by saying it doesn't mean you can't do nice things with your other half (rather than what's just expected i.e. meal out, gifts, flowers, cards on the day).
I'm single but if I was with someone then if it meant a lot to the girl then i'd do the whole flowers/meal/cards thing, but i'd still feel the same way about it. I'd rather we spent the day together and just did our own thing without doing what the advertisers and marketers tell us which is what the masses do.
Really though I can't think of much worse than going out to a packed out restaurant on VD. I'd rather treat her to the restaurant of her choice the next week or something.
I think Valentine's Day just leaves a bad taste in a lot of people's mouths because it comes off as contrived, forced, fake, and just a nuisance in terms of expectations.
There are 365 days in a year, and folks choose to go ALL out on ONE day when they are "suppose" to?
There are 365 days in a year, and folks choose to go ALL out on ONE day when they are "suppose" to?
That's my feeling too. We try to show each other love all year round, I don't need one day where we have to "prove" it.
Oddly, I end up with husbands who like VD and want to do over the top gestures.
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That's what I mean by saying it doesn't mean you can't do nice things with your other half (rather than what's just expected i.e. meal out, gifts, flowers, cards on the day).
I'm single but if I was with someone then if it meant a lot to the girl then i'd do the whole flowers/meal/cards thing, but i'd still feel the same way about it. I'd rather we spent the day together and just did our own thing without doing what the advertisers and marketers tell us which is what the masses do.
Really though I can't think of much worse than going out to a packed out restaurant on VD. I'd rather treat her to the restaurant of her choice the next week or something.
IMO restaurants are best avoided on any holiday. Easter is another one; those places that offer a special Easter brunch menu are always packed.
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As a woman, I am not fond of Valentines Day. Seems to me that if someone loves me, he doesn't need a special day to remind him to be loving toward me. I do not want flowers, candy or a dinner out on that day. I want us to spend the evening together talking. laughing, and well, the rest.
Even as a school kid, I disliked the emphasis on our class exchanging V cards that day. I always worried that I had to express "love" for those I didn't even like (we were required to have a card for everyone in the class), and I certainly didn't want to get a card from someone who didn't "love" me. I did like the candy we got that day though LOL
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