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I feel about VDay the same that I feel about New Year's. They're not real holidays, but it's fun to acknowledge them, and you don't have to be obnoxious about it. Sparkling wine and good snacks are always welcome.
I am cracking up that Super Bowl Sunday is being thrown around as a high pressure couples holiday, though.
I know, LOL!
SBSs makes me feel highly pressured to bring the most awesome snacks and not make bad armchair calls. I am REALLY good at the former and pretty shaky on the latter.
I'm sure men hate Valentine's Day because it has degenerated into a materialistic Female Worship Day. There's a damn good reason the breakup season takes place between New Year and Valentine's Day.
Probably 60 years or so ago, women expected to get flowers and not give a bought something in return.
Back in the day, when women didn't make money but men did, a guy would have bought something, a woman would have had to give something less materialistic, I suppose?
I know few...actually, no women with such an entitled attitude and no thought to also showing appreciation.
I am not big on fighting crowds, in fact I hate it. Many of the activities I do are during off times to avoid crowds. If I have to I can handle crowds just fine, but things like Valentines Day promote going out to dinner when everybody else wants to go. The service sucks, everyone is stressed, and their are lines, and long wait times, but if you don't go the woman will be disappointed, and will think you don't care about her enough. It is a total crock.
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I am not big on fighting crowds, in fact I hate it. Many of the activities I do are during off times to avoid crowds. If I have to I can handle crowds just fine, but things like Valentines Day promote going out to dinner when everybody else wants to go. The service sucks, everyone is stressed, and their are lines, and long wait times, but if you don't go the woman will be disappointed, and will think you don't care about her enough. It is a total crock.
If you can sell it correctly, you can get the woman to agree to a good meal at home and not having to fight a crowd.
I've had several male bosses and friends over the years who whine about Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, and wedding anniversaries being "Hallmark Holidays."
WTF !?!
These men had wonderful wives and GFs who did more housework than the guys, more childcare than the guys (many raising the guy's stepchildren), buying the guy's favourite foods at the supermarket, did more cooking than the guys, and created the couple's social lives.
And Mr can't take an hour or so 3 - 5 days a year to find a gift or experience (restaurant dinner, mani-pedi certificate) for the gal who has done so much for him?
WTF?
I this is precisely the reason.....
There isn't a holiday to celebrate the husband's contribution to the household. Assumption that her contribution is greater than his worthy of a highly commercialized holiday is flat out wrong. It screems entitlement...
You, as the coworker, don't really know what happens in their household. So that's speculation.
It should be a celebration of the couple. It would go a long way to also do something for your husband's on this day... Especially in a household of equals.
We've always been a family that shuns a lot of the high pressure and highly commercialized holidays. My group of friends are pretty much the same....
Even in college, I felt lucky as my future wife wasn't the entitled type.... I always felt bad for the financially strapped college guys who felt obligated to spend big on these days.
This valentines, I'll probably take my bartender friend out for dinner... No pressure... Platonic friends. She has been a good resource for support lately and has recently broke up. Maybe also bring along a few more friends of mine that really aren't the Valentines types.
Are all of you people talking about how one sided Valentines day is forgetting about the v-day b-jay? And don't give me this "he gets enough of those the rest of the year" crap. Another one is always nice.
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