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There's a break-up season? Wow, and I only paid attention to the flu and hurricane seasons....
The expression is partially humorous. But the largest number of breakups does take place between these holidays.
Thinks about it: people slog though subpar relationships because they "need" a romantic partner for certain times of year. There's pressure to have a partner by your side at family gatherings for Thanksgiving and Christmas. There's pressure so have someone to kiss on New Year. There's pressure to have someone to cuddle with when snow melts and spring fever strikes. There's pressure to have someone to fool around with during sweaty, sultry summer days; or a "guaranteed" date for the wedding season in the summer. There's pressure to have a partner for those raunchy Halloween parties. But Valentine's Day? It's a financial sinkhole, especially when a breakup is looming. Hence, breakup season.
YOU might feel all that pressure, I never have. I think it's odd to feel pressure to be with someone, especially "anyone" at family gatherings - I only took people who were special to stuff like that.
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I'm sure men hate Valentine's Day because it has degenerated into a materialistic Female Worship Day. There's a damn good reason the breakup season takes place between New Year and Valentine's Day.
This is a valid point believe it or not. The only reason I held off on breaking up with my girlfriend through Christmas and New Years is because Christmas was our trip and I figured I can then make an informed decision there after. As most regulars know, that trip was a disaster and first week of January, we both knew what time it was.
The expression is partially humorous. But the largest number of breakups does take place between these holidays.
Thinks about it: people slog though subpar relationships because they "need" a romantic partner for certain times of year. There's pressure to have an SO by your side at family gatherings for Thanksgiving and Christmas. There's pressure so have someone to kiss on New Year. There's pressure to have someone to cuddle with when snow melts and spring fever strikes. There's pressure to have someone to fool around with during sweaty, sultry summer days. There's pressure to have a partner for those raunchy Halloween parties. But Valentine's Day? It's a big financial sinkhole, especially when a breakup is looming. Hence, breakup season.
You forgot Super Bowl Sunday in this. By one's late 20s/early 30s, almost all Super Bowl parties are couples only affairs. It can be quite uncomfortable to be the only single in a room of all couples.
[quote=RJ312;50992227][quote]=MillennialUrbanist;50992198]There's pressure to have an SO by your side at family gatherings for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
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You forgot Super Bowl Sunday in this. By one's late 20s/early 30s, almost all Super Bowl parties are couples only affairs. It can be quite uncomfortable to be the only single in a room of all couples.
You joke, right?
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YOU might feel all that pressure, I never have. I think it's odd to feel pressure to be with someone, especially "anyone" at family gatherings - I only took people who were special to stuff like that.
Well, especially in the South and especially in a Black family, that pressure is thick and very present. When you approach 30 as a Black male with no girlfriend in sight, people will wonder if you swing the other way or what is your problem otherwise?
You forgot Super Bowl Sunday in this. By one's late 20s/early 30s, almost all Super Bowl parties are couples only affairs. It can be quite uncomfortable to be the only single in a room of all couples.
In my experience, not in the slightest. All Super Bowl Sundays I attended for the past 4 years were diverse mixes of singles and couples, and no one gave a rat's behind who was which. It was diverse age-wise too. Not a trace of awkwardness in sight. Although maybe I was lucky at picking who to watch it with.
Whatever happened to the stereotype of Super Bowl Sunday being a guy thing, with women just shaking their heads at it?
In my experience, not in the slightest. All Super Bowl Sundays I attended for the past 4 years were diverse mixes of singles and couples, and no one gave a rat's behind who was which.
In my experience, once single guys coupled off, they started bringing their gfs to game watching parties. Then the gfs became wives. The game watching parties turned into a litmus test on one's relationship status. Basically, Super Bowl Sunday became couples only. If you were a couple, you could go and feel included. If you were a single, you got invited but basically no one talked to you.
In my social circle, I'll only go to a Super Bowl party now as a coupled off person and not as a single.
Well, especially in the South and especially in a Black family, that pressure is thick and very present. When you approach 30 as a Black male with no girlfriend in sight, people will wonder if you swing the other way or what is your problem otherwise?
I can see that, same with more traditional Mexican families (and Filipinos, and Chinese, and...)
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