How do you as a man show interest in a woman?

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by picklejuice

My wife often reminds me of a time before we even had our first date. I was reading a newspaper and also sitting right beside her and another woman.. I was totally engrossed in the paper I was reading except for when she said something. Then, and only then, it was as if EF Hutton had spoken to me.

I didn't consciously or intentionally ignore the other woman.
I guess my subconscious attraction and interest in my future wife naturally came out, and my disinterest in the other lady also came out...

How incredibly sweet.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by ciceropolo

Ha, you made me think of this classic vignette from the Movie Hitch one of the better Rom Com movies..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcXer15_vpA






It makes me think of a tangential topic, which would be, if we were all telepathic and you knew what someone thought of or fantasized about you, would you be more or less inclined to be quicker in deciding whether to spend quality time getting to know that person? Would you immediately flee from certain peoples presence? I think what would happen is, it would lend itself to more efficient 'partner finding' efforts and may drive many couples apart.

Another topic I once brought up in some relationship thread. Would an overture get different response if the approached (whether m/f) knew the level of selectivity of the one asking? Would knowing the selective nature of the asker would the receiver of the overture weigh more favorably in their response?

Looked at statistically, if you, as a woman, knew that one man asking you, asks hundreds, perhaps thousands of women indiscriminately and the other, say a dozen (and they were both quite equal in your level of physical desirability, would you view the nominal instance of interest in women as more favorable if you were one of the dozen? or not? Curious

Sounds like a contest.I like winning.

[HuntFishRepeat]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Maybe if more men were direct and said,"Hey I like you,want to date you,want a relationship with you". Instead of playing dumb mind games.

If it were only that easy,

The problem is sometimes it feels like we are walking on the edge of a 1000 ft cliff of rejection ....

so typically most of us wait for smoother terrain to make our move.

[mosdefinitely]

I'm horrible at this. For example, a woman I'm very interested in now I'm giving cold shoulder treatment just to see how she responds. I'm still feeling out the situation. Weirdly enough, if I'm not attracted to you as a woman, I may come off as flirty/very confident. If I like you? I freeze up and sometimes come off as very stoic.