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Yep, she should've deleted the old pictures. It's social media.
To be fair, ask her if she thinks her Facebook is a diary of sorts. If she says yes, then it might make sense why she's archiving inane photos and posts.
It appears this relationship requires you to train this person about quite a few simple things, so be patient.
OP, you were insecure from the beginning. I think you've know all along that she didn't really want "you." You set a tone for this "relationship" and that's all that strung it together until this point, although loosely. The minute any non deliberate-blinders conversation at all entered the picture, the fights started. That's because she was expecting one thing, giving "her part," and you flipped the script. I'm not counting the FB pics as no-blinders convo, that is just another symptom of your insecurity, again because you KNOW she didn't want you for you and you always knew she'd be out the door for any number of reasons.
Why not stop trying for girls who are on totally a different trajectory from you (i.e. just out of or still in college, loads of dates, partying, etc.)? You're not there. No, of course you can't compete (if you will) with that. You seem to want to come off as "very young" but...(so sorry) you're not. In 9 more years you'll be 40. Just think about that for a second. You need to be your own age, and date your own age...this arrested development thing isn't working.
I get it, society as a whole frowns on aging and it affects some people more than others. You need to evolve, you are no kid anymore...and as you can see, you don't get along with the kids anymore. Move forward. You don't have a choice, life is making you do it, time goes on no matter what you do. So embrace it, grow up and date grownups. Good luck. This is JUST an impression I get...that you're trying to hold onto 21...that's actually working against you, not for you. You're not happy this way and if you're not happy, only one person can change your situation, and you know who that is.
I never delete anything off of facebook! It's the history of my life, relationships, milestones! It's where I store photos of my life!
I think it's funny that you are blaming her for guys posting on her social media! And that you think being attractive makes her a *****!
You need help!
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You are absolutely intent on finding RED FLAGS!
Relax, she's not dating her ex...she's dating you!!
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Yeah, why would I delete stuff like that. That would be weird.
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Seriously? Are you sure you aren't in high school, because that's a high school reaction
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Op you need to talk to a professional. Your thinking is very underdeveloped, irrational, and illogical.
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
You called her a *you know what* because other guys are complimenting her. How is she suppose to control that? Only teenagers get upset about crap like that, grow up. You knew what you were getting into when you decided to get with her. Don't play dumb.
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
Honestly, I'd be more worried if she had thought enough about him to go back, dig through her entire photos and albums history and picked out just the ones that involved this guy. That degree of attention would communicate (IMO) that she had really, really, really been gone on him and was systematically trying to excorcise his memory. That's a lot more daunting.
Just my take. With social media today, you'd actually have to stalk yourself to make sure very i had been dotted and every t crossed, LOL. Once it's out there it's out there and you may just forget about it entirely over time. To me, that latter part is actually a good sign as regards the ex.
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
You just had 5 posters tell you your thoughts are ridiculous!
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
It requires less effort just to keep them there than to go through and remove them all like he didn’t exist. You may still go somewhere and do something that is important to you despite it being with an ex.
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
Of course those pictures mean something to her! But not because she still loves him! They are reminders of who she was in that moment! She remembers the good times that she had back then! She doesn't want to forget her high school and college years as time goes by!
When someone dies, do you throw out all the photos you had of you with them?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Did your mom throw away all your baby pictures once you grew up?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Seriously? Why she would keep pics of her ex? Maybe she's still in love and those pictures mean something for her! I don't get that and everybody I know don't have pictures of ex on social media! This doesn't make any sense to me!
Why would I delete something that happened?
It wouldn't even cross my mind to go back and delete things from people I'm not dating anymore, even if we're not in touch. What's the point? That's some bitter stuff there. My going to wherever or seeing whoever with someone happened. It did. Why pretend it didn't?
Do you often think about this stuff, like as in, trying to erase the past? I don't even think about it really. I would really have to have a deep hatred for someone for this to even occur to me.
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This is JUST an impression I get...that you're trying to hold onto 21...that's actually working against you, not for you. You're not happy this way and if you're not happy, only one person can change your situation, and you know who that is.
