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I think when two people start dating, they shouldn't expect anything.
Listen more than you talk.
Pay attention to red flags, they're there for a reason.
Don't project some kind of fantasy about the person you're dating that they're suppose to be everything you want.
If there are not similar values, morals, principal, upbringing, etc. and it isn't working out, then move on, don't waste your time trying to make it work.
No relationship is perfect, but especially starting out if there's one road block after another - then move on.
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Originally Posted by picardlx
Lot of people are nervous on first dates. Why not consider them trial runs and make your evaluation on the second? (Experiment a little )
Because I have to pay for them and I’m not going to waste time on a second date when I had more than enough information to make a decision after a couple weeks of talking and one actual date.
You should live together for awhile before getting married.
If sex doesn't happen within the first few dates (not counting religious/medical reasons), it's best to move on.
I think a lot of couples get married and have kids in such a short time period that they never give themselves the chance to get to know each other. The person you "thought" was your soulmate has vastly different values from you: i.e., you maintain a clean house and they're OK with a higher degree of messiness. You prefer to eat out sometimes while they only want to eat at home...but insist that you do all the cooking.
From the male perspective, if a woman can restrain herself with ease around me over multiple dates and close interaction...the likelihood of developing more passion is low. Even if you don't have a Netflix and Chill night on Date #3, it should be clear that she's using all of her willpower to keep you out of the bed. There's a certain degree of chemistry that needs to exist. If she's had trauma from the past, has strong religious convictions or some sort of medical issue...that's a different story.
You should live together for awhile before getting married.
If sex doesn't happen within the first few dates (not counting religious/medical reasons), it's best to move on.
I think a lot of couples get married and have kids in such a short time period that they never give themselves the chance to get to know each other. The person you "thought" was your soulmate has vastly different values from you: i.e., you maintain a clean house and they're OK with a higher degree of messiness. You prefer to eat out sometimes while they only want to eat at home...but insist that you do all the cooking.
From the male perspective, if a woman can restrain herself with ease around me over multiple dates and close interaction...the likelihood of developing more passion is low. Even if you don't have a Netflix and Chill night on Date #3, it should be clear that she's using all of her willpower to keep you out of the bed. There's a certain degree of chemistry that needs to exist. If she's had trauma from the past, has strong religious convictions or some sort of medical issue...that's a different story.
Yes. Furthermore, some women are just like this, period, and will never have anything better than a mediocre drive for sex. Others, it may be a compatibility thing.
Of course, the behavior of "incels" is awful and horrible.
We understand that nobody is entitled to sex or relationships.
But we can sympathize with their loneliness for never haven experienced any.
My unpopular opinion (so many to choose from): being friends with your exes is good.
If a girl tells me that she still regularly talks to her ex then I run for the hills. I got burned once by a girl who went back to her ex while leading me on to believe that she wanted a relationship with me. I’m not about to let that happen to me again. Not saying that all women do that, but I’m not taking any chances.
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