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Originally Posted by danielj72
I agree with the OP. Most people do not choose to become old maids. Most men do not choose to become permanent bachelors. Either these people don’t want to be married or they are very difficult to deal with in some way. This does not mean you should not date someone like this, but it does show that everyone else for the past 30 years who has dated this person has either been rejected or has rejected them. Not a good sign no doubt.
It doesn't show this at all. You're assuming that they wanted to get married and/or have children in the first place. Lots of women I have met who have been amazing desired neither.
In the world of dating, men chase and women lure for the most part. I can totally see how a even a decent looking guy with his act together could end up never being married and with no kids for these reasons.
I ask this mainly because almost every woman my age (40's) that fits this description is REALLY hard to date from what I have experienced.
Also, this question is for other men.
If ATTRACTIVE 40 years old (or any age, for that matter) women are not getting any dates, it has nothing to do with the fact with fact that they are childless. They must be doing some other crap that's turning people off.
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The thing you should realize, when you meet an attractive, pleasant woman in her 40's who has never been married or had kids, it was her choice not to.
That's key. I wouldn't make a bigger deal about it, or wonder why or if she's been rejected.
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The thing you should realize, when you meet an attractive, pleasant woman in her 40's who has never been married or had kids, it was her choice not to.
That's key. I wouldn't make a bigger deal about it, or wonder why or if she's been rejected.
She's made that life choice.
Yup, or, she just hasn't met the right person who wanted the same thing with her, if she did want that. Better not to do it at all then do it with someone you know isn't right.
There are some people both men and women who just never find love. I don’t why it’s so hard to fathom but perhaps some people were not meant to be married and or have children or else it would have happened for them long before 40. I don’t care what anyone says, sure there are always exceptions to the rule but most of the time if a woman has not been married and or had children by the time she is 40 there is a very, very slim chance she is going to achieve that especially as time goes on. I can personally attest to the fact along with many other citydata users that finding love and dating only becomes more difficult as you get older.
It doesn't show this at all. You're assuming that they wanted to get married and/or have children in the first place. Lots of women I have met who have been amazing desired neither.
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Originally Posted by danielj72 View Post
I agree with the OP. Most people do not choose to become old maids. Most men do not choose to become permanent bachelors. Either these people don’t want to be married or they are very difficult to deal with in some way. This does not mean you should not date someone like this, but it does show that everyone else for the past 30 years who has dated this person has either been rejected or has rejected them. Not a good sign no doubt.
The latter can't be it, because there are people who have no problem getting romantic partners and then those partners wind up
1. Being alcoholics
2. Drug users
3.Cheaters
4 Abusers
5. All of the above
And yet, THEY don't struggle finding a romantic partner.
But yet the substance free, non-abusive, non-violent loyal partner, etc. may be having problems finding someone because "they are difficult to deal with in some way?"
I agree with the OP. Most people do not choose to become old maids. Most men do not choose to become permanent bachelors. Either these people don’t want to be married or they are very difficult to deal with in some way. This does not mean you should not date someone like this, but it does show that everyone else for the past 30 years who has dated this person has either been rejected or has rejected them. Not a good sign no doubt.
Or maybe she doesn't have kids because she doesn't want to have a baby only to be left to raise it on her own. Instead of assuming, why don't you ask one? Or maybe you could just mind your business.
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Instead of assuming, why don't you ask one? Or maybe you could just mind your business. 
