I found out i was pregnant on friday (older, friend, living together)
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So he's in a boom-and-bust situation. He takes contracts when he can get them, some pay well, some don't, plus he sometimes chooses not to continue them, or to remain unemployed, so he can travel.
And this is what you call "making it work". One month ago he got a well-paying TEMP JOB, so you're not fantasizing about him supporting you for the next 18 years.
He's not on board with your fantasy! Get that through your head! You can't rope him into this!
She's not listening Ruth.
Of everything you said in the post she quoted, she focused on the irrelevant and blocked out the fact that he really doesn't want her.
This poster is severely deluded and likely mentally ill (not to be mean). She's acknowledged her unstable/obsessive tendencies herself. It's evident in the fact that she turns to strangers instead of her own friends/family for help. Something must've happened to her in the past that makes her think this kind of relationship is okay/normal. He has shown her time and time again he doesn't want her, but she just refuses to see that.
She wants a fantasy and is stuck on it. She has been begging us for years to "help" her (really enable her self destructive thinking). I predict that if she keeps this child (or doesn't), he is going to leave her when he no longer needs the little benefit he's getting from her now. She won't have anywhere to go but back home to her family possibly or to a mental health facility where she'll finally get the help she needs. IF she doesn't stalk him after he leaves her. I pray she doesn't go down that road, because she could end up in prison.
He will find someone else, develop a happy relationship with them, and do everything possible to keep the OP out of his new life. He may even file a restraining order because the OP just won't leave him alone. She's one of those people that has to be "forced" to move on, when the partner finally leaves and blocks them out of every avenue of their lives. He's very manipulative and is a jerk for leading on the OP as long as he has. She's clearly sick and he's taking advantage of that.
It's sad but sometimes that's how some people have to learn.
This potential child has done nothing bad enough to deserve being saddled with either of these two as parents.
He/She is better left as an unborn(aborted) fetus
Go to counseling and make your own decisions. Sorry but he sounds like a loser.
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