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Nope...I needed to do it on my own so I knew I could make it with the high cost of living here...if it didn't work with him. It's called being smart & not getting myself stuck in a city with no out....without relying on a man.
Nope...I needed to do it on my own so I knew I could make it with the high cost of living here...if it didn't work with him. It's called being smart & not getting myself stuck in a city with no out....without relying on a man.
That’s what I said....and you previously posted that he didn’t like it and wanted to pay, but let you prove you could. Now you’re done.
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You made it ... three months.
And it *did* work out with him....
But I know I will never be "stuck" unhappily.....that if I need to leave the relationship, I can make it just fine on my own now even with the high cost of living...plus I have made friends. No one should ever put themselves in a situation...where they *have* to stay anywhere...........
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How would you be unhappy? When asked what you would do there on your own, you explained how you have all these new friends and a life you wanted in a new state...on your own. But now you see you’d be stuck?
I would *not* be stuck if living together doesn't work or we break up for any reason. I know my income is enough to have an apt. here because I already did it....
I would *not* be stuck if living together doesn't work or we break up for any reason. I know my income is enough to have an apt. here because I already did it....
Lol for three months
I’ve got food that’s been in my freezer longer than that.
Making it “on your own” means more than just financial. Your apartment has been a technicality, a base camp while you spend 3-4 nights a week at his place, getting emotional and monetary support.
Y’all are in the newborn stage of a relationship. Too early to make the decisions you’re talking about.
I would *not* be stuck if living together doesn't work or we break up for any reason. I know my income is enough to have an apt. here because I already did it....
Well yeah, with the sale of the house bought by your last established husband. I’m sure the new guy didn’t mind you wasting all that money on proving you could do it “alone”. He watched you foolishly throw it away til you’ll have to depend on him. Smart move, for an older player type.
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Lol for three months
I’ve got food that’s been in my freezer longer than that.
Making it “on your own” means more than just financial. Your apartment has been a technicality, a base camp while you spend 3-4 nights a week at his place, getting emotional and monetary support.
Y’all are in the newborn stage of a relationship. Too early to make the decisions you’re talking about.
I met him a year ago....we've been in a relationship for longer than 3 months. I'm 31 yrs old...not 19! It has developed very slowly. I was not getting any monetary support from him for my apt....he has always paid to take me out on dates or buy me things, but rent & living expenses....I did on my own.
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Well yeah, with the sale of the house bought by your last established husband. I’m sure the new guy didn’t mind you wasting all that money on proving you could do it “alone”. He watched you foolishly through it away til you’ll have to depend on him. Smart move, for an older player type.
I have spent very little from the sale of the house.....and it was all appreciation. It belonged to my ex husband & I....not just to him. How do you even know about that? I didn't throw any of it away & I have a job here....a very good job.....
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That’s what I said....and you previously posted that he didn’t like it and wanted to pay, but let you prove you could. Now you’re done.
I never said he didn't like it...Lol...just that he offered to pay. The money doesn't mean anything to him & he was willing to help any way he could. I don't need to prove anything else to myself....I know I can make it here on my own with the high cost of living & if we broke up for *any* reason, I'm not stuck......BUT what I did have to decide....is the issue about a baby. I know I have to be Ok with that........
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