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Originally Posted by PardonTheInterruption
Tasha, sounds like you want the option of having kids someday and he definitely doesn't want them, ever. There is no way to work around this at all.
I'm not advising you one way or another, but if you stay with him you're choosing no kids of your own. That's it
I just did not think I would need to make a final choice about it now....
He wanted kids when he was younger.....& he went through the pain of a child dying several yrs ago. That may or may not be a part of his decision too... but I think it has more to do with his age.
Do you think this is a common reason for dating couples to call it quits...if one person wants kids & the other doesn't? Do you think most people discuss it before it would be time to plan one?
I married my wife because she’s the most important thing to me. We have two kids which I’m grateful for but if she wanted no kids I would have been happy with her as well.
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I married my wife because she’s the most important thing to me. We have two kids which I’m grateful for but if she wanted no kids I would have been happy with her as well.
It's just for me to decide....if I want kids or not....or which is more important, a baby or my relationship with him.... & it seems like a relationship with him keeps winning ..
It's just for me to decide....if I want kids or not....or which is more important, a baby or my relationship with him.... & it seems like a relationship with him keeps winning ..
But is it winning because he's what you want, or because being with him is the status quo, and the easier way, and the "bird in the hand," so to speak?
Only you can make the choice, and if you're on the fence, maybe you could go either way and be equally happy. But again, really expose yourself to the consequences of your choices either way because you'd hate to choose having kids and then find out it's not really for you, and you'd hate to choose him and find out you're miserable without kids.
Location: As of 2022….back to SoCal. OC this time!
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Originally Posted by ClaraC
I didn't read this thread, just read the title.
You shouldn't get beyond the third date with a possible partner who has a different opinion about whether you want to have kids.
That's a litmus test. You want to have kids, or you don't.
And the relationship shouldn't progress beyond the 2nd date if you aren't in agreement about that.
I'm in a relationship with him now because I love him...not because I was looking for a baby daddy!
I am undecided about having a baby E V E R....& that is why it is confusing to think of closing the door on it....
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