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I’ve uploaded a face photo and a body photo. Unfortunately their a bit small due to the file size limits, but I can assure you they’re way more clear on the app, well the body pic isn’t on the app, it’s a pic from last week.
Well, you’re far prettier than my coworkers who met their husbands online, but you already knew that it wasn’t a looks issue.
I would not post your pic. This is not a private forum, anyone can browse it. And a shady person could easily take your picture and figure out your real identity.
I had a lot of first dates when I was dating. Frankly, I found most women kind of boring. Maybe just light and comes across as boring and not too bright. Trying just being yourself.
Perhaps, I’ve been told that before by someone I actually went on a date with years ago.
However—and idk maybe I’m wrong—I think those thank you texts saying I had a good time should be taken as a hint that I may be interested.
I’ve been told more than once, texting: “Thanks for meeting, I had fun” means you’re all done with them now, but thanks for meeting.
Seriously! I was surprised to hear that! Know how I found out? I texted again a couple days later and asked if they wanted to meet for happy hour. More than once the guy was surprised. I’m not sure what has happened in the world, but women have to step it up and be explicit. It’s like some men are actually going home, wondering how the date went, and you need to give a rave review, AND make the next move. Especially if he made the first move by doing the asking.
If a guy is waiting for you to say you had a great time and what is he doing this weekend, but instead he gets: “Thanks, it was nice meeting you” or nothing at all...it’s like you closed the door.
Try something else to get something else! Yes it’s a learning curve, like anything. That’s good though, after 3 years off and on with OLD, Ive also learned a lot about myself and what I really want.
OP its possible you and these guys just arent experiencing that pow of chemistry. You said you are 37 and if they are in the same age range a lot of people at that age dont want to waste time if they are not really feeling it. When I was younger in my 20s I think dating was easier because people that young arent thinking of time pressures, they have more free time, dating is just for fun or if you need someone to go with you somewhere.
It gets more goal oriented later on when people are more likely to be looking for something serious (unless they want an easy lay but that becomes less common too imo).
It can take awhile to find that real connection ime.
So yeah if a guy doesnt pursue you its probably he just is not sensing you two have really hit it off.
Yes, exactly. I wish I could be above this, but I’m not...can’t help it, the ego gets bruised.
And my last date did tell me I was very pretty, and I thought we had a nice time, never heard from him. So then I start question if I said or did something to put him off
That's not really the smart way to approach dating ... try and charm every date into liking you and then see what hand you've got.
Although I will say that MOST do in fact approach it that way whether they will admit it or not, myself included, and it's part of the problem.
My guess is that as others suggest, you put out a vibe like you're trying to 'collect adoration'. I had a date with this one woman, and while I wouldn't call her a full blown diva, she was much closer to that than the women I typically got dates with. We really didn't have a common core, but two people who are open minded and friendly can easily fill several dates and make it entertaining. I had a sense that she was just trying to get me to 'adore' her. I did actually text her back, but didn't follow up.
To be completely honest, two people on a date should be trying to turn each other off. They should really be fishing for the things that are incompatibility alarms for long term relationships. I think that is the SMART way to do things, but not the way it's generally approached.
My other guess is that you are accepting dates with only high level guys and they have enough options to be picky and reject you outright after a first date for a variety of reasons.
I’ve uploaded a face photo and a body photo. Unfortunately their a bit small due to the file size limits, but I can assure you they’re way more clear on the app, well the body pic isn’t on the app, it’s a pic from last week.
I think it should be that she tells them she’d like to go out again, if she’d like to go out again.
This mind reading and supposition is just exasperating to me.
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