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She had a bra on. It was unintentional and non-sexual. You're overreacting.
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Actually I'd say the pals are overreacting if they're giggling and razzing OP as if they were 11 years old.
If my friends were that immature I'd go looking for grown-up friends. Call me crazy.
I'm new to the forum, so thanks for having me. My question is about a matter that has caused some tension between me (29) and my wife (26). We were at a gathering of several friends, mostly couples, a couple of weeks ago. Everything was fine until a particular thing happened. Several of the people present were sharing various photos of things they had done, etc. Some of the ladies had been together for some event where they were trying on various articles of clothing and so forth. They were putting up pics of themselves and one another in different outfits. At one point, a pic came up showing one of the ladies in some top or whatever. Well, right behind her in the pic, my wife was standing, obviously in the midst of changing from one item to another, and there she was totally visible from the waist up in only her bra. There were some chuckles, etc. going around the room, and that's when I looked up and saw what it was about. They were cracking some jokes and so forth about her being accidentally caught on camera in her bra. She was laughing along with everyone else about it, obviously not really embarrassed. I complained to her on the way home and asked if she knew the pic existed. She said yes, but that she had forgotten about it. I stated that I didn't like the other guys there seeing her like that. She said that it was unintentional, but that the girls all just laughed it off. She said that I was making too big of a deal about it and should lighten up; that it could have just as easily happened to one of the other girls and I then I would have seen one of the other guys' wife in her bra. She said she was covered, so it was no big deal. My question is: Am I overreacting here? Would you guys just laugh it off if it was your wife or girlfriend? Ladies, would you be embarrassed if you had been the one in the pic? Would you make them delete the pic, or just "be a good sport" and go along with it? I would like some opinions here.
I agree with the op. Slippery slope. No. He doesn't own her body but the man has standards. Good for him. What's next? A thong? Maybe a girls trip with pictures of her and some island guy. Nope. It's your way or the HWay dude. Set the rules now while she is in her prime. You do NOT want to ever reward poor behavior.
I agree with the op. Slippery slope. No. He doesn't own her body but the man has standards. Good for him. What's next? A thong? Maybe a girls trip with pictures of her and some island guy. Nope. It's your way or the HWay dude. Set the rules now while she is in her prime. You do NOT want to ever reward poor behavior.
Wow, that's quite the imagination you have, there.
The thing is, there was no bad behavior. A friend of the OP's wife was sharing pics of the group of women who'd been trying on outfits behind the scenes at some kind of fashion event. They were in a room alone together, IOW, women only, taking pics of each other in different outfits. They were in a private space, having fun together. So there was no bad behavior.
But when at the event the OP attended,where the women from that fashion event were there with their partners, one of the women showed photos of that day when they were having fun trying on clothes, it accidentally came up that one of the photos showed the OP's wife in the background. The woman showing the photos, and the OP's wife as well, had forgotten that there was one photo that showed someone in the background half dressed.
The title of the thread is a little misleading. It says his friends saw his wife in a bra. No, they didn't. They saw a photo of his wife in her bra, and the rest of her was clothed, and she was only in the background, accidentally caught in a photo of someone else. It's not like his wife was parading around half-dressed in mixed company.
There was no bad behavior. No rules to set, because OP's wife didn't do anything wrong. What rules would the OP possibly set? Maybe he should make a rule for his wife's friends, that they're not allowed to show photos of his wife in a state of undress, whether accidentally or otherwise. They should keep their photo collections to themselves, and not show them in mixed company? Just in case one of the women might be in the background of a photo, changing clothes?
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 08-27-2022 at 05:52 AM..
This is 2022, not the early 1900's. It is only that our culture is male dominated that allows men to show their bare top half and women not. You and I probably dont think twice to go around without a shirt on because we are men and in hot weather it is almost expected in order to keep cool.
However, here, where I am today, in a major capital city of the world, there are still most people who will not think it is proper to go around outside without a shirt on, even in hot weather. So, it is all cultural differences.
I suspect this type of opinion by the OP can lead to anger, jealousy and possessiveness which shows a tendency towards controlling behaviour. Arguments come next. I suggest therapy too.
Wow, that's quite the imagination you have, there.
The thing is, there was no bad behavior. A friend of the OP's wife was sharing pics of the group of women who'd been trying on outfits behind the scenes at some kind of fashion event. They were in a room alone together, IOW, women only, taking pics of each other in different outfits. They were in a private space, having fun together. So there was no bad behavior.
But when at the event the OP attended,where the women from that fashion event were there with their partners, one of the women showed photos of that day when they were having fun trying on clothes, it accidentally came up that one of the photos showed the OP's wife in the background. The woman showing the photos, and the OP's wife as well, had forgotten that there was one photo that showed someone in the background half dressed.
The title of the thread is a little misleading. It says his friends saw his wife in a bra. No, they didn't. They saw a photo of his wife in her bra, and the rest of her was clothed, and she was only in the background, accidentally caught in a photo of someone else. It's not like his wife was parading around half-dressed in mixed company.
There was no bad behavior. No rules to set, because OP's wife didn't do anything wrong. What rules would the OP possibly set? Maybe he should make a rule for his wife's friends, that they're not allowed to show photos of his wife in a state of undress, whether accidentally or otherwise. They should keep their photo collections to themselves, and not show them in mixed company? Just in case one of the women might be in the background of a photo, changing clothes?
I agree with the op. Slippery slope. No. He doesn't own her body but the man has standards. Good for him. What's next? A thong? Maybe a girls trip with pictures of her and some island guy. Nope. It's your way or the HWay dude. Set the rules now while she is in her prime. You do NOT want to ever reward poor behavior.
Honestly, there's only one way to even the score. Show her friends a picture of you in your tighty-whities.
Actually thought about what the OP would do if the picture was of one of his friend's wives...
Would the OP have turned away in horror? Stared long enough to see if he could see her 'nips' through the lacy bra?
Seriously, this thread has gotten more 'play' than it should have.
The OP overreacted to a picture, fercryinoutloud. A picture his wife forgot about...a picture that wasn't pornographic, and that she wasn't posing for...a picture that was an accident.
I mean, what would the OP do, if his wife was wearing a sleeveless shirt...in the summer...and her bra strap slipped off her shoulder?
Would LOVE for the OP to show this thread to his wife...
He's so concerned about others SEEING it, but not so concerned about others KNOWING about it?
I need to see the pic to properly judge the situation.
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