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Why would you avoid telling her? If you are doing this now worried about her reaction, then you'll be hiding things from her for the rest of your relationship.
Personally, a 10 day international trip would be a significant event in my year if not my life. I take several every year but it's one of the key events in my year. I can't imagine dating someone for a month and not wanting to share that with them, especially when it's a week away. Now some people may fall head over and ready to marry on the third date but I would need much more before wanting exclusivity, which would likely mean almost daily seeing, talking, or texting with. Then I'm just going to ghost them for two weeks?
You consider going on a planned vacation "ghosting" ?
If by 'partying' you meant sex tourism, well, that is a separate issue.
Not a huge party person. It's just the optics.
Also no I'm not into the XXX scene.
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Originally Posted by oceangaia
some people may fall head over and ready to marry on the third date but I would need much more before wanting exclusivity, which would likely mean almost daily seeing, talking, or texting with. Then I'm just going to ghost them for two weeks?
Thanks for the reply. Yes it's been daily talking and 3 dates a week for over a month.
I'm just going to come clean. It just sounds really wussy dude.
And I'm not the take charge of your life kind of guy either...
The other thing I would say is that people typically in dating/courting try to present their best attributes and then ... the person finds out about the faults/dislikes/incompatibilities later.
I actually think there's some value in doing it the other way.
I will say that if I had a planned vacation and then met someone and knew them for a month, I would tell them of my previously booked plans and go on vacation. But that is what I would do. Each person is different.
I’d tell her and then take the trip. I’ve almost always regretted giving too much, too early. If you’re honest and communicate with her regularly, she should be fine.
Next time, you can plan something together.
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