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Is it not possible to go on a 10 day vacation and refrain from having sex with the available sex workers? Can you not go for 10 days being faithful to your new partner?
How about: Yes. Love to be exclusive with you. Don't think I am ghosting you, I have a 10 day trip that has been in planning for a year, so I don't want to cancel it. If I can get wifi, I'll text or email every day.
Now the question. Are you wealthy enough to buy her a ticket and take her with you? If so, at least offer if you don't feel it is too early in the relationship.
I can not honestly think of any party location where there is not plenty of family friendly stuff to do in addition to the drinking and carousing.... except maybe that small island in Greece where all the homosexuals go to party, and if that is where you are going, I think that it is time to tell your girlfriend that you are gay. She should be informed of that, if that is how you plan to use your vacation time..
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Come on. Tell her you're going on vacation and look forward to seeing her when you return. Go and have fun. Seriously. If a new relationship can't "survive" a vacation then its over before it even starts.
Is it not possible to go on a 10 day vacation and refrain from having sex with the available sex workers? Can you not go for 10 days being faithful to your new partner?
The sex worker comment is uncalled for. I lived abroad most all of late 2020-2021.
Last edited by Gray Rider; 11-20-2022 at 11:08 AM..
From the sounds of it, looks like the OP planned a "sex tourist" type of vacation. Probably a destination somewhere in Latin America or other similar destinations known for as such.
Why else would he be mulling over whether nor not to cancel this trip? If it was just a plain 'vanilla' vacation to somewhere that is not known of these kinds of activities, I'm pretty sure the OP would have no issues with telling her that it was planned from before, etc. etc. He could easily video chat with her from the location.
Looks like the OP wants to have his cake and eat it as well. Be exclusive with someone, yet still wants to dabble in some fun.
The only question the OP needs to ask himself is this. How would he feel if he told a lady he was dating, that he wanted to be exclusive with her, and then she later tells him that she'll be going on a trip to a place where people party and do all sorts of things? Or even hides it as best she could?
Whether he would be okay with that is his answer on what he should do.
Even if you're going to see old friends and there will be a lot of partying, and you're not into the XXX scene, then why aren't you taking her? She could meet your friends and you could enjoy the scene.
This is a dilemma because I'd rather see you invest in the new relationship with a different trip. You can always go on that trip next year. Old friends will always be around, but it's your call not mine or ours.
Even if you're going to see old friends and there will be a lot of partying, and you're not into the XXX scene, then why aren't you taking her? She could meet your friends and you could enjoy the scene.
This is a dilemma because I'd rather see you invest in the new relationship with a different trip. You can always go on that trip next year. Old friends will always be around, but it's your call not mine or ours.
He has a 10 day trip planned from before he even met this women. I'm really shocked that so many people are advising him to cancel standing plans for someone he's known for five minutes, even if he likes her a lot. If she can't accept that he's got a life outside of their baby relationship, that's a red flag already.
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