I cheated on him...and I don't know why? (man, love, cheat)
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I agree with a lot of what people are posting I do'nt agree that you are selfish and will never grow out of it though (ahem...).
I think that you already answered your own question, you said "I don't allow myself to be loved and happy". Why is that? That's why you need to see a counselor, that person will help you move forward from issues that are holding you back and holding you in a repeating pattern.
People cheat for many reasons and that is one of them. You could also be cheating partly because when you meet someonew new, there is that excitement and newness that comes with it whether it's an affair or not.
Maybe deep down inside, part of you enjoys the darkness that the affair offers to you and the excitement of doing something you know is wrong is appealing to you. The best thing you can do is to first be honest with your boyfriend and admit what you have done. He has the right to know and he will have to determine if he wants to stay again with you. Chances are, he won't.
Then before you let yourself get involved again, you need to get counseling and work out this addiction you have.
ya walking away from the problem is going to solve all her issues...some help you are Cat. Responsible adults stick with the problem until it is resolved. She needs to toughen up and be a woman.
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Originally Posted by Mr.Cat
Just take a deep breath and walk out the door. It is up to you to make your own future. Let him be and good luck with your life.
oh artsguy, c'mon man. She'll keep do'n it till she gets "bit"/"stung". She's date'n a guy w/no balls that'll keep her just so he gets some on the side.
She knows its wrong, but still does it. It's like a spoiled brat work'n her parents.
What needs to happen is the guy's balls to drop and move on.
I know your type alison, and you do need to tough'n up(like art said). I don't think ya will, do you think you can prove me wrong? Doubt it, your weak.
Reverse psyc.
Just have'n fun. you both, art & alison, know how I feel. This post is toung-n-cheek, so don't take it wrong.
ya walking away from the problem is going to solve all her issues...some help you are Cat. Responsible adults stick with the problem until it is resolved. She needs to toughen up and be a woman.
What if she's not truly in love with her boyfriend? What if she's staying with him only so she's not single? And two years is not that long for a relationship, and it's not as if they were married and we were advising her to get a divorce. I don't think there is any reason for her to stay in her current relationship. I think that she should just permanently breakup with him and talk to a counselor about how to enter a relationship for the right reasons.
she has loser personality disorder plain and simple
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Originally Posted by Capt. Cave Man
oh artsguy, c'mon man. She'll keep do'n it till she gets "bit"/"stung". She's date'n a guy w/no balls that'll keep her just so he gets some on the side.
She knows its wrong, but still does it. It's like a spoiled brat work'n her parents.
What needs to happen is the guy's balls to drop and move on.
I know your type alison, and you do need to tough'n up(like art said). I don't think ya will, do you think you can prove me wrong? Doubt it, your weak.
Reverse psyc.
Just have'n fun. you both, art & alison, know how I feel. This post is toung-n-cheek, so don't take it wrong.
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