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Is the fact that he is a pastor even an issue? In the situation I am thinking about here, this pastor has had feelings for this woman for years but has tried his best to stay away from her and to keep things on the up and up. His wife is suspicious, but did the typical thing of blaming the other woman, even though she has never done anything to encourage or support the pastor's crush on her. On his part, he is drawn to this woman, but, again, tries his best to set clear boundaries. What do you make of this situation?
you took the words right out of my mouth--or my fingers
its one of those "tests" that we all go through in life. what matters is what he does or doesnt do about it.
you took the words right out of my mouth--or my fingers
its one of those "tests" that we all go through in life. what matters is what he does or doesnt do about it.
Actually, I don't stand for the unnatural celibacy required by some religions, either.
Is the fact that he is a pastor even an issue? In the situation I am thinking about here, this pastor has had feelings for this woman for years but has tried his best to stay away from her and to keep things on the up and up. His wife is suspicious, but did the typical thing of blaming the other woman, even though she has never done anything to encourage or support the pastor's crush on her. On his part, he is drawn to this woman, but, again, tries his best to set clear boundaries. What do you make of this situation?
Of course it's an issue - he needs to seek some counsel of his own. Most mainstream denominations have a system for dealing with these kinds of issues, but he needs to let someone in his "chain of command" know that he needs some help. He is only human, after all, and therefore just as capable of being tempted as anyone else. BUT, in his position he cannot afford to let this thing go on. He may need to transfer out of that church and ask for another assignment for instance.
Of course it's an issue - he needs to seek some counsel of his own. Most mainstream denominations have a system for dealing with these kinds of issues, but he needs to let someone in his "chain of command" know that he needs some help. He is only human, after all, and therefore just as capable of being tempted as anyone else. BUT, in his position he cannot afford to let this thing go on. He may need to transfer out of that church and ask for another assignment for instance.
Or... he can leave the church and lead a normal human life.
Or... he can leave the church and lead a normal human life.
sierra, did you miss the part where he is MARRIED?? He IS living a normal life. But as a pastor he has the responsibility to his flock to be above reproach and to immediately remove himself from certain temptations.
I take more issue with the fact that he's married and having feelings for another woman than with the fact that he's a pastor attracted to someone in his church.
Neither is a good situation for him to be in.
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