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She_WAS_a_Phoenix: I have an incredibly tenacious attention span that lasts for weeks, months, or even years on a subject I am interested in. But when I am presented with something that I am not interested in, its like I have ADD. I'd have easier time staring at the wall.
Its as if my attention span has ONLY two positions:
1. Heat-Seeking Missile.
2. Dead to the world.
I'm either so riveted I'm barely aware of physical reality (Einstein had this problem - he used to leave the house without clothes on... I FEEL BLESSED THAT I ALWAYS REMEMBER MINE! LOL!) or I'm staring off into the distance at sparkly things (Intelligent people are often misdiagnosed with ADD because of this - the only difference is that we can stick with reading a book for hours - I guess people with ADD can't do that for some reason.).
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I won't quote your whole post. You never mentioned what work/career you're involved in.
What are your passions (I know you're interested in a lot, but what topics/skills) that get you going?
I have to admit that this doesn't sound truly related to IQ. What you have expressed -- and being a forum, it's hard to really know what's what, so one can only surmise -- sounds more like a combination of various psychological complexities. For instance, your bouncing off the walls and racing from one thing to another and obsessing about topics, ignoring even physical needs, sure sounds like bi-polar traits, not to mention OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Not being able to identify emotions of others is rather disturbing -- it seems to indicate an inability to feel normal emotions and a need to "practice" identifiable emotions. I may be totally off-base, but much of what you describe are classic traits in the DSM-IV.
If you are truly sincere in wanting to interact with people on an acceptable level, and considering the ways you say that you react, there are a few things I would suggest, since we have no clue what kind of work you are involved in.
With your hyperactive, obsessive, and fluctuating moods, but....a quick mind, creative curiosity, and an openness to a variety of ideas, I'd suggest joining up with a new, creative, start-up business that could use someone with loads of high energy, a quick mind, an obsessive nature to stay at task researching, and, presumably, a variety of skills.
Of course, if you are not able to contain your wild swings, then you may well find yourself back at square one. You're obviously interested in psychology, and I'd guess you have already self-diagnosed, and have some ideas of what you project.
Either get involved as a research subject in a field that could utilize your "gifts," or find a business or "think tank" to bounce ideas off of.
Sensitivity, acute observation skills, and intelligence can serve you well in many areas. If the emotional instability is what trips you up, then the only choice you have is to try to get it under control. It is true that most "normal" businesses, research projects, and professionals would find that kind of behavior distracting to their own concentration. Because you have an interest in self-introspection, surely you can harness your energy to put it to good use to improve your social interaction skills.
I realize this may sound flippant, but I don't mean it to be, however, I do suggest that you find a good (very intelligent and highly observant) therapist/psychologist (not necessarily a psychiatrist, as they mainly deal in drugs), and see if you can find a more constructive and positive way to harness your contrary emotions/outbursts/obsessions/confusion about feelings and other people.
I have no idea who you really are, or what your situation is. For those of you who have been on C-D for awhile, it could be another NAH (Need Affordable Home) whom we followed with zest, suggestions, even compiled a travelog for and were disappointed when we discovered that it wasn't as we thought.
If, in fact, you are honest and sincere, then in order to function in society, you'll have to acknowledge that, smart or not, there may be some deep issues you need to deal with.
I give you the benefit of the doubt, only because I have personally known people exhibiting many of these traits. Unfortunately, their obsessive natures, and refusal to try to change, have socially inhibited them, and neither have a relationship (and they are in their late 50s), or have ever married. There comes a point where one has to take personal responsibility for her situation, and then has to effect changes willingly. Other than that, you are left with interesting stories, absorbing time alone, but no real intimate life. When I listen to my friends' complaints, I realize (and so do they, actually) that what they claim they want will just not occur (a close relationship). Sometimes intelligent people have disorders that prohibit them from a normal life, just as less intelligent people can have similar problems.
Since you have described behaviors that probably
would scare off a potential suitor, then the power falls into your own hands --
you get to choose if you want to pursue using your mind to make beneficial changes, or if you don't and are willing to accept life as it is. Those are really the two choices if you're talking about a relationship. Of course, sometimes people with similar difficulties find each other and it works out -- you never know.
I'd by-pass the IQ component and deal with the other issues you have listed because they sound much more difficult for you than being intelligent. I empathize with your distress, however, at least you know what you're like, and self-acceptance is half the battle. And have a little fun!
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WyoNewk *Takes a hit and passes the bong to She_Was*
Here ya go girl. Get stupid and giggle with the rest of us.
Wanna Twinkie?
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Just saw this -- actually, not a bad idea!!
Good luck to you.
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I have so many allergies and intolerances... That is one side effect of giftedness believe it or not! And auto-immune disorders, too. Thankfully I don't have one of those!
I won't give it away, but it's just there.....hmmmmmmmmmm
