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I am surprised that no one has hit upon the possibility that the "disappearing" person is attempting to avoid embarrassment, Embarrassment of himself or the other party.
Or the alternative is that this person simply does not have the social skills to address these issues.
Is it possible that during these few date, a "deal breaker" appeared that was not apparent or ignored during the initial phase of the relationship.
I can envision a trait that would be embarrassing to point out to the other party, but will "grind on the nerves" of this person. In his/her mind, it might be better to simply break off the relationship rather than being called on to proffer an explanation.
Is "disappearing" on someone you are dating for maybe 2-3 times or so a disrespectful way to end it? By disappearing I mean just suddenly stopping to return any communication from them.
I will never understand why this has become an acceptable form of communication? What's wrong with being honest and simply saying you've changed your mind? Give the person the same courtesy and respect you would want. This behavior is the cause of lot of mistrust and difficulty with relationships people have.
You want a person without baggage? Try being honest and ending the relationship instead of "disappearing".
I am surprised that no one has hit upon the possibility that the "disappearing" person is attempting to avoid embarrassment, Embarrassment of himself or the other party.
Or the alternative is that this person simply does not have the social skills to address these issues.
Is it possible that during these few date, a "deal breaker" appeared that was not apparent or ignored during the initial phase of the relationship.
I can envision a trait that would be embarrassing to point out to the other party, but will "grind on the nerves" of this person. In his/her mind, it might be better to simply break off the relationship rather than being called on to proffer an explanation.
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I will never understand why this has become an acceptable form of communication? What's wrong with being honest and simply saying you've changed your mind? Give the person the same courtesy and respect you would want. This behavior is the cause of lot of mistrust and difficulty with relationships people have.
You want a person without baggage? Try being honest and ending the relationship instead of "disappearing".
Best answer. Disappearing with no explanation seems very childish and disrespectful of the other party. We're all adults here. We should act like it.
Talk to the person...every time you think you are out of the woods, they will appear out of the blue...at the grocery store, dating a friend, at a cocktail party.
It is always a good idea to just make it right the first time.
Talk to the person...every time you think you are out of the woods, they will appear out of the blue...at the grocery store, dating a friend, at a cocktail party.
It is always a good idea to just make it right the first time.
It happens to me all the time...at one point I was running into my high school nemesis EVERY time I went to the grocery! We finally talked because it was obvious we had stuff to work out and the Big Guy was going to make sure we figured it out or we were going to keep running into each other...Karma.
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Disappearing with no explanation seems very childish and disrespectful of the other party. We're all adults here. We should act like it.
