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Back when I dated, I found it hard to date more than one at a time, because the fellows would be jealous and/or want to be exclusive so I would have to drop them or be exclusive then drop them, then back to square one. Perhaps things have changed.
I would try to keep the number of active women you are dating to a few.
I'm not overthinking when I'm out, actually having some clarity helps me just relax and go with the date flow.
Yeah, I'm at 3 right now but 2 are unavailable for a few weeks...I am also talking to a couple more but just that.
There is some strong potential with at least 2 of the 3.
I think it's fine to be casually dating a few people at one time.
Like ChessieMom also said, I think my feelings for a guy would be diminished if I found he was more than casually interested in several women.
Ideally, you should keep your mouth shut about your other relationships. But don't lie if asked.
Women are territorial and we despise players. But I think most of us are fair-minded and are probably doing the same thing ourselves when it comes to casual dating. Does that make sense?
Once the line is crossed and physical affection begins - even if it's not sex - most women would like to feel like the relationship is becoming or has become exclusive. (I'm thinking this out as I write)
So, probably a good rule of thumb might be to avoid getting too close until you're sure what you want from the relationship. And if you intend it to be casual sex, then you need to figure out how to deal with her emotional issues in advance.
I agree with what you are saying. I think I need to get a feel for what the individual women are looking for too.
I'm definitely not a player...not cut out for it....never will be, I have overdeveloped conscience.
I think I will just be up front about dating and then generally keep my mouth shut from that point. These are nice, attractive women, I'm not naive enough to think they aren't getting SPAMMED with attention on these sites themselves....my Saturday date told me she got >30 emails in her first week on the site...and I can totally believe that.
Once the line is crossed and physical affection begins - even if it's not sex - most women would like to feel like the relationship is becoming or has become exclusive. (I'm thinking this out as I write).
Heh, wasn't a kiss almost a first-date rule?!
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Yeah, I'm at 3 right now but 2 are unavailable for a few weeks...I am also talking to a couple more but just that.
There is some strong potential with at least 2 of the 3.
I get it. We have a saying back in St. Olaf - if you try to sit on 2 chairs you fall in the middle. Probably happens more often than not in this wonderful dating world.
there is no such thing as "the one".
so dating can be seen as an interesting off ramp of the freeway of life. the freeway is primarily focused on work and community. the more you began to perceive hookup as the true meaning of life, the further you get from the freeway.
It depends on the kiss and the kisser. Being kissed by someone you already suspect is a player is quite different from being kissed by someone you think likes you.
I'd rather have a guy tell me he'd like to see me again than have to figure out what the kiss meant.
my Saturday date told me she got >30 emails in her first week on the site...and I can totally believe that.
Damn, my profile must really suck 'cause I only got six, and it's dropped off since then. Although, I come out and say I'm looking for "long term" and not "dating"
It depends on the kiss and the kisser. Being kissed by someone you already suspect is a player is quite different from being kissed by someone you think likes you.
I'd rather have a guy tell me he'd like to see me again than have to figure out what the kiss meant.
I better just read this thread... The concept is just not likely to get through my skull. Not sure if I want it to, either.
Damn, my profile must really suck 'cause I only got six, and it's dropped off since then. Although, I come out and say I'm looking for "long term" and not "dating"
Well the site if Plentyoffish and it depends what area you live in....larger pop centers = more hits. She did say most of her emails were instant-deletes from creeps or people WAY out of her age range.
One gal on POF I have chatted with is basically a blonde bombshell...killer picture...she has >100 "favorites" but says the vast majority are not even remotely dateable.
my Saturday date told me she got >30 emails in her first week on the site...and I can totally believe that.
Yep. When you first show up, you get slammed. Most are throwaways though, I think some guys just wink/email every new profile that shows up, just to see if they get any bites!! It slows down after a few weeks.
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- if you try to sit on 2 chairs you fall in the middle. Probably happens more often than not in this wonderful 
Most are throwaways though, I think some guys just wink/email every new profile that shows up, just to see if they get any bites!! It slows down after a few weeks.
