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I see Dabeez has made himself an honorary mod today.
But, anyway....they weren't in a relationship and the OP said it was an accident that they slept together so I guess I don't see it as such a huge deal that she didn't mention kids. It sounds like it was very casual and they just hung out.
Now, I will fully admit that I do not have the crystal ball that most of you seem to have when it comes to knowing exactly what is going on here and how she's a master manipulator, but that has never stopped me from adding my .02.
I think if you like her and want to slow things down or just be friends then tell her that. But, it may be a deal breaker for you and there is nothing wrong with that either.
It seems wierd to me that she would not mention her kids even if they were "just friends"...
I recently ended a relationship with the first man I've ever dated who had children. I know I sound like a hypocrit saying that I wouldn't date another guy who had kids but after the hell I been through with that crazy baby mama, it's truly how I feel. Honestly, I think it depends on the relationship that both parents have. If they have their sh*t together and the kids are being properly cared for and their truly over than I don't see why not but if not I'd run and never look back.
It seems wierd to me that she would not mention her kids even if they were "just friends"...
It is weird to not mention your kids and I agree with that, I just don't think the sky is falling because she didn't. Maybe she assumed that he had heard it through the grapevine.
To the OP, when did she tell you she had been married? And I'm really curious about how many times you two had been out alone.
Rep for you my friend. After all, how would they feel if a guy they dated and bedded suddenly revealed that he had kids to raise? I bet they would be royally ticked off.
Actually you are WRONG..I would think what a good guy he is..poor him struggling to raise his children all by himself. He would get all the praise due him..he would have women lining up cause we'd all think what a great guy..but what do women get? Read these post and ur find your answer to that question..
Women rarely run from responsibility..while so many men run and tell their friends to run..
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Actually you are WRONG..I would think what a good guy he is..poor him struggling to raise his children all by himself. He would get all the praise due him..he would have women lining up cause we'd all think what a great guy..but what do women get? Read these post and ur find your answer to that question..
Women rarely run from responsibility..while so many men run and tell their friends to run..
True maybe, but not if he hid the fact til some time later, which seems to be the case here--unless they got right down to 'it' the first date in which case it's none of my business and I'll just say
Actually you are WRONG..I would think what a good guy he is..poor him struggling to raise his children all by himself. He would get all the praise due him..he would have women lining up cause we'd all think what a great guy..but what do women get? Read these post and ur find your answer to that question..
Women rarely run from responsibility..while so many men run and tell their friends to run..
I call total, self-serving baloney on that one. Sorry.
Do you really mean to tell me that if you met a guy, dated for several weeks, exchanged confidences, talked about your lives, and finally consummated matters--then only to have him reveal in the post-coital glow that he has two kids living at home--you wouldn't be really wondering what else he was hiding from you? Tell me another one.
Again, it's not the fact that she has two kids. It's when she elected to tell him. As with everything else in life, timing is absolutely everything.
I'm just gonna shut up here cause it seems no one is reading all that i am saying or in the text i'm saying it and i'm really frustrated today for some reason and i'm doing no one any good..I'm having a bad self pity type day and this isn't helping nor am i helping..so i'm gonna resign my advice and let the others advise til I am in a better state of mind...grrrr..
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