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+1...I noticed the same thing...sometimes single mothers are worse parents than deadbeat dads... If someone is going take credit for and expect praise for raising their kid as an afterthought to their own sexual desires, then I see no reason to glorify them above anyone else who isnt fulfilling their parental obligations by putting the welfare of their children first..
All irresponsible scum with poor choice in character judgment imo.
Exactly where does she suggest her child is coming in second? You guys keep inferring that just because she has a FWB on the side that she's automatically not putting her child first. Do you think she's dropping off her kid with a babysitter so she can meet up with her friend? Do you think she's sneaking him into the house while her son is asleep? I saw nothing in her statements to even suggest this. I bet if this were a single man doing this, you wouldn't object.
Exactly where does she suggest her child is coming in second? You guys keep inferring that just because she has a FWB on the side that she's automatically not putting her child first. Do you think she's dropping off her kid with a babysitter so she can meet up with her friend? Do you think she's sneaking him into the house while her son is asleep? I saw nothing in her statements to even suggest this. I bet if this were a single man doing this, you wouldn't object.
No, someone else suggested that children should not be put first. If I were with a single mother who did not put her child first, I would leave.
No, someone else suggested that children should not be put first. If I were with a single mother who did not put her child first, I would leave.
So let me get this straight. A single mother who has a FWB is not putting her child first, but a single mother who dates a betamanlet is until she proves otherwise?
So let me get this straight. A single mother who has a FWB is not putting her child first, but a single mother who dates a betamanlet is until she proves otherwise?
What kind of example is having FWB setting for the child?
How is her being a commitmentphobe benefitting her child?
What kind of example is having FWB setting for the child?
How is her being a commitmentphobe benefitting her child?
Well it would be nice if you would answer the question without asking more questions.
At any rate, any relationship could potentially take focus off of the child. A serious relationship often takes more focus off of the child than a FWB situation.
Wow, what a mess this thread is. Although this betamanlet character chats loads of mumbo-jumbo crap, he does occasionally make some very valid points. But they are then overshadowed by the ridiculous point that he follows up with.
No, someone else suggested that children should not be put first. If I were with a single mother who did not put her child first, I would leave.
Actually, I believe it was you who suggested the poster who has a FWB is not putting her child first.
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Originally Posted by betamanlet
What kind of example is having FWB setting for the child?
How is her being a commitmentphobe benefitting her child?
How does having a FWB prove that she's a commitment phobe? Not everyone wants a serious relationship or has the time and energy for one. That doesn't automatically make them afraid of commitment. As for your question about what kind of example it sets for a child, you've obviously never dated a single parent. Every one that I've met knows how to keep their home life and their social life separate making your question irrelevant since a responsible mother wouldn't let her child know about the FWB. It sounds like you expect a mother to sacrifice everything for her child and not have a life of her own.
1) Better than a parade of boyfriends in and out of the kids life.
2) It's a great way to have kid #2 or #3 etc despite your best intentions, accidents happen.
3) Raising a kid by yourself is HARD, is the FWB preventing you from pursuing a more meaningful relationship? (If you are incapable of having a good relationship at the time and just keep hurting yourself and others it may not be a bad play, but watch out for #2) Basically, beware the FWB pitfalls.
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