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Too often, the person who doesn't change is made to feel guilty for the relationship failing. I remember a couple who were of different religions. The guy was Jewish and the girl was Catholic. But the guy didn't really embrace his heritage so the girl convinced herself that she could someday persuade him to become a Catholic. It didn't happen and she blamed him for not being open to change.
In any relationship, a certain amount of compromise is expected. No matter how much you line up in the big issues (parenting, money, religion, etc.), there will always be things you don't agree on. If you're one of those people who absolutely has to have his or her way, you don't belong in a relationship. For example, if your partner gets transferred to a different city or gets a really great job that requires more travel, then you should at least consider moving or adjusting your schedule to theirs. But the extreme cases are where you should draw the line. Whether or not to have kids is an obvious example. So there has to be a middle ground. Some things you should be willing to change and others you shouldn't have to. But no matter what, your partner shouldn't force it on you. Nor should they punish you or make you feel like a bad partner for not changing. Too many people these days are selfish, expecting their partner's life to revolve around theirs.
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