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hi there
sorry to keep posting threads but i am just looking for some advice for future reference, if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Ok, well after getting to know someone that i am interested in i ask them if they are in a relationship. They usuallly reply with ''why do i ask''?
What is the right answer because i never know what to say and my mind goes blank?
hi there
sorry to keep posting threads but i am just looking for some advice for future reference, if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Ok, well after getting to know someone that i am interested in i ask them if they are in a relationship. They usuallly reply with ''why do i ask''?
What is the right answer because i never know what to say and my mind goes blank?
Well, Andrew....if you open up a conversation with someone by asking them if they are in a relationship it can go several ways once they say "why do you ask". First if it is a woman you are asking this of, she may assume that your next move is going to be asking her out...so, if that is the case you say, "Well, I was just wondering what you were doing this weekend and if you are not busy, would you like to go out to dinner?" What's the worse thing she can say, "NO"....not a big deal. If she says NO, then you say "Well, maybe some other time".
If you are asking a guy this and you are not gay, and he says, "why do you ask"...then you can always tell the guy that you are having a problem trying to start a relationship with a lady and how would he handle it. You might be able to pick up some first hand hints on this from him.
If you are Gay and ask this question....then I would follow the same game plan as you would if your were asking a woman out....
I think you blank out because you are scared of the "NO" response and it really isn't a big deal. My present husband totally blew me off for our first date...we were suppose to see a movie then go out to eat and he fell asleep. When I called him to see where he was, he says to me, "Oh, I don't feel like going. Guess I will stay home and sleep tonight". I said to him, "OK, guess I will call some of the girls and go out dancing tonight"...He never blew me off for a date again.
Good Luck and whoever you are going to ask out, don't be shy! No isn't such a bad word.....there is always another person to ask out.
hi there
sorry to keep posting threads but i am just looking for some advice for future reference, if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Ok, well after getting to know someone that i am interested in i ask them if they are in a relationship. They usuallly reply with ''why do i ask''?
What is the right answer because i never know what to say and my mind goes blank?
or, you could word it "if you're not in a relationship, would you be interested in going out..." that way you'd get the answer to your question without the person possibly feeling pressured
thanks, i blank out when asked this question because i feel like if i do not give a good enough response than she will not think that i am interested.
I usually give a generic answer like ''im just interested.''
hi there
sorry to keep posting threads but i am just looking for some advice for future reference, if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Ok, well after getting to know someone that i am interested in i ask them if they are in a relationship. They usuallly reply with ''why do i ask''?
What is the right answer because i never know what to say and my mind goes blank?
It's a matter of technique and personal charm.
Just ask her out
No, that's not it. Just ask her out in this fashion.
"Hey, we should grab a bite together, if your boyfriend doesn't mind" <you must use your eyes and facial expressions to the fullest>
The dialogue delivery is "vital" and it must be delivered at one stroke, without a pause.
You will have the answer you need.
A. "No, he's a cool guy" - bugger! The probability of this answer is 20% only
Uhmm.. why would you open up a conversation with .. Are you in a relationship? I like the approach that Colossus typed.. make it inconspicous.. then they wont ask the.. Why do you ask question...
hi there
sorry to keep posting threads but i am just looking for some advice for future reference, if anyone can help me i would appreciate it.
Ok, well after getting to know someone that i am interested in i ask them if they are in a relationship. They usuallly reply with ''why do i ask''?
What is the right answer because i never know what to say and my mind goes blank?
I would have asked her if her heart was taken. It's pretty straight forward and she will know what is on your mind instantly.
Uhmm.. why would you open up a conversation with .. Are you in a relationship? I like the approach that Colossus typed.. make it inconspicous.. then they wont ask the.. Why do you ask question...
Colossus's approach is a good one, but only if its smoothly delivered. And smooth delivery is something that is simply never in the cards for many guys asking a girl out . If its not smoothly delivered, it will come across as awkward at best, creepy at worst.
No offense to the OP, but I think if he was the type who could deliver lines like the ones Colossus wrote, he wouldn't be asking this question on an internet forum.
No, I think the other approach is the right one, with one change. I wouldn't ask "are you in a relationship?" It sounds kind of cheesy, and very technical. I'd ask instead, "are you seeing anyone right now?" If she says "Yes" you are done. If she says "No," clearly you've got an opening. If she says "yes, but its not serious," that also is an opening. It suggests that she is only casually dating and is open to seeing others (read: you) as well.
If she answers "why do you ask," I'd personally try to read how she says it. If its playful, she's probably into you and you can run with it a bit. If its sort of agitated, she may not be into you. If you aren't sure, Connecticut Pam's suggestion is a stellar one.
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. If its not smoothly delivered, it will come across as awkward at best, creepy at worst.
