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Filing for divorce does not equal
- being the main "cause" for the divorce
- desiring the end of the relationship more
- initiating the talk and plans of divorce
- being the one to actually leave the home/relationship
In almost all the cases I've personally seen, the woman filed after her husband committed infidelity and moved out (often with his new partner). I don't know why the man did not file first. Probably because he will be held financially responsible (alimony and/or child support). It seems like these men wanted their cake & to eat it too....
I agree with Orangeapple. I think the women just finally have to take the initive to get things in order. I filed first time after infidelity, drug problems and being seperated for 9 months. I think he could have continue just being seperated forever because he had no responsibility.
Second marriage, he filed after being unofficially seperated for 8 months. I think he realized I wasnt going to and someone told him he should. Everything was worked out in mediation 4 months after filing, its now going on 16 months and Ive had to take him to court twice to no avail and have been pushing my attorney to get him and his attorney to finalize the divorce.
Filing for divorce does not equal
- being the main "cause" for the divorce
- desiring the end of the relationship more
- initiating the talk and plans of divorce
- being the one to actually leave the home/relationship
In almost all the cases I've personally seen, the woman filed after her husband committed infidelity and moved out (often with his new partner). I don't know why the man did not file first. Probably because he will be held financially responsible (alimony and/or child support). It seems like these men wanted their cake & to eat it too....
Interesting.... I never really thought about these things. But, it certainly makes a lot of sense!
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In the case of my first divorce it was lazyiness....and boy,did that cost ME!!!!
One had to go to court and the one that took the blame didn't have to....we decided to use MY lawyer and I was going to get my fair share.....he said only one had to go and I said "Heck,I'll take the blame...irreconcilable differences" if I don't have to show in court.
What I DIDN'T know was that when I took the blame the lawyer was then HER lawyer because I was the "bad guy"
That cost me BIG TIME and it cost the attorney a pretty good ass whipping and a promise of more to come if he didn't keep his yap shut and take it like the weasel he was....If I won the lottery she was able to get half for ten years and goofy crap like that was written into the "agreement".
I do agree tho'....guys just let it float along and the woman usually want closure.
For the same reason my "mother", who was abusive to me and my siblings and spent all the child support on drugs and booze filed for a divorce: GREED. If the husband cannot provide enough money, enough material possessions, a big enough car etc etc etc it makes perfect sense from the woman's greedy prospective to dump him, milk him until he's dry through alimony and child support, only about 50% of which actually goes to the kids, and get another man to milk for all he's worth too.
Ya gotta watch the bloodsuckers like a hawk. Dont sign anything you havent read twice and never assume your attorney is looking out for your best interest. I've had to mark my MDA up with a red pen three times and take it back. I finially offered to draft the darn thing up myself!
For the same reason my "mother", who was abusive to me and my siblings and spent all the child support on drugs and booze filed for a divorce: GREED. If the husband cannot provide enough money, enough material possessions, a big enough car etc etc etc it makes perfect sense from the woman's greedy prospective to dump him, milk him until he's dry through alimony and child support, only about 50% of which actually goes to the kids, and get another man to milk for all he's worth too.
Yeah, that why women get divorced. That 30% cs is more than 100% of his paycheck.
Yeah, that why women get divorced. That 30% cs is more than 100% of his paycheck.
30% child support plus 100% of the next sap she gets hitched with equals ALLOT MORE THEN WHAT SHE COULD HAVE GOTTEN FROM THE FIRST HUSBAND ALONE. It's like poligamy for women, only without having both men living under the same roof.
And women always get something out of it....even if a garbage man married Paris Hilton, chances are nine out of ten that he would still have to pay her something.
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