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I'm for it of course, but clearly the OP isn't married to a Sicilian. I love her to death, but she made it plain what could happen, Bobbitized isn't a desirable outcome..
On a more serious note, I can see the argument on both sides. While I am happy at home, there have been periods where I would be open to such an arrangement, but I am fortunate to have been able to speak with my wife about it and we worked it out to our mutual satisfaction. But that's me and I would never look down on others that might take a different path. My theory is if it works for you and yours, so be it.
It's funny to me that in American culture a "full body massage" really means 90% of the body. Somehow 90% is all clinical and healthy and normal and appropriate, but if the other 10% is massaged it's suddenly prostitution. I think this stems from our puritan origins and shame related to our bodies and sexuality that is deeply embedded in our culture. In many other cultures what we call a "happy ending" is just considered a part of the massage.
It's funny to me that in American culture a "full body massage" really means 90% of the body. Somehow 90% is all clinical and healthy and normal and appropriate, but if the other 10% is massaged it's suddenly prostitution. I think this stems from our puritan origins and shame related to our bodies and sexuality that is deeply embedded in our culture. In many other cultures what we call a "happy ending" is just considered a part of the massage.
A happy ending is not compatible with a real massage. A real massage relaxes you in a way that is the opposite of sexual arousal. You can't do both, not without ruining the first one.
It's funny to me that in American culture a "full body massage" really means 90% of the body. Somehow 90% is all clinical and healthy and normal and appropriate, but if the other 10% is massaged it's suddenly prostitution. I think this stems from our puritan origins and shame related to our bodies and sexuality that is deeply embedded in our culture. In many other cultures what we call a "happy ending" is just considered a part of the massage.
Oh yes, America is a total prude nation. Heck, we don't even allow sex with kids or animals in most states!
"It's just a massage" = "It ain't immoral if it's only oral"
Oh, and if you spin around five times after sex, you can't get pregnant.
A happy ending is not compatible with a real massage. A real massage relaxes you in a way that is the opposite of sexual arousal. You can't do both, not without ruining the first one.
If there were no climax/release at the end of the sexual arousal, I would agree with you. When there is, it's the complete opposite-- ultimate relaxation.
If there were no climax/release at the end of the sexual arousal, I would agree with you. When there is, it's the complete opposite-- ultimate relaxation.
Well I'm glad it works for you .
For me, the anticipation of sexual stuff later makes me to excited to deeply relax.
This is why women I know make fun of men who try to initiate sex by offering a massage. It shows they know nothing about good sex -- or a good massage!
But maybe it is just women they don't know about. Is this a gendered thing, massage being the opposite of sex? I've never seen a man be able to really relax if he thought something sexual was going to happen later, but maybe my sample size is limited?
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Last edited by NilaJones; 12-01-2013 at 07:50 PM..
Fine with me, as long as partner doesn't mind me getting porked by the pool boy.
Lmao!
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