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Besides, he's got a track record...2 previous women he's shacked up with, and where did that go? He could be trying to avoid a 3rd mess.
And possibly trying to avoid the additional chances of yet a 3rd child before he gets married. He's doing you a favor by not letting you rush him. Believe me.
My boyfriend and I (in our 30s) have been dating for about 5 months. he thinks it's too soon to move in together. I would move in today if he was agreeable to it. He has a point about it being too soon only because , to be honest , we have discussed the relationship and I have a lot more feelings for him than he does me. I really wouldn't say the situation is uncomfortable becasue of it too often. We are together all the time and we get along well when we are not discussing my occasional sadness due to loving him too much. I am wondering what I should do , besides give it time, to inspire him to want me to move in. I try to be patient (he is very patient.) but I also would like this to happen as quick as possible. What does everyone think? This would save me driving ,the money I would save in gas would pay half my share of the rent and I would have more time to be with him and my pets. What's in it for him? Just the rent though he could get that from any roommate.(And a little drive time / gas money) How do you get your boyfriend to want to take it to the next level?
Is this the first person you have wanted to or lived with? Some men prefer marriage to the moving in together thing. How do you know he is the right person for you? Where do you want this to go in five years? If this guy has children from other women don't you think he carries a little too much mileage for you?
I have lived with men before. I don't know if he prefers marriage to living together but he is not ready for either. He is a good person and we get along well. Well before 5 years Id like to be married. It is not a problem , at all, that he has kids with other women. We are not going to be in that situation. I like his kids.
Why do you choose to live with men and not seek marriage first? Are you afraid of marriage? Do you feel loosing your status as a single woman will destroy your identity? It just seems you are trying to wade into a relationship like stepping into a pool which you are unsure how cold or warm it is.
He has only lived with 2 of his previous girlfriends, they were having his babies. (I have no plan to do this.) , We are together all the time, true, we take a night off here and there, but I don't know if space is an issue. (becasue we are always together and I even ask him if he needs some space and he always says no.)
He has two children, by two different women, neither of which he was married to? My advice is to move on. NOW.
As far as the moving in issue, why on earth are you pushing something that clearly you are both not ready for? I can't believe you are in your 30's. You are acting more like a 20 year old.
He has two children, by two different women, neither of which he was married to? My advice is to move on. NOW.
As far as the moving in issue, why on earth are you pushing something that clearly you are both not ready for? I can't believe you are in your 30's. You are acting more like a 20 year old.
Two children from two different women. Can Ms Bloom tell us why she thinks he is such a catch?
Two children from two different women. Can Ms Bloom tell us why she thinks he is such a catch?
As the other person said, love is blind. If you want someone badly enough, you will find a way to cherish everything about them that made them in to the person you love.
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He's doing you a favor by not letting you rush him. Believe me.
He has two children, by two different women, neither of which he was married to? My advice is to move on. NOW. 
