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It's an engagement ring. I'm not committing her to slavery.
I want to see her reaction and not expect it at all. That's all. The less she's involved the less likely she's expecting it. If she's expecting it, then there's really nothing in it for me. I never wanted to feel like I have to put the ring on her finger in somebody else's timeframe.
It's NOT a control issue, LOL - some people read all kinds of things into some posts - good grief.
It's an engagement ring. I'm not committing her to slavery.
I want to see her reaction and not expect it at all. That's all. The less she's involved the less likely she's expecting it. If she's expecting it, then there's really nothing in it for me. I never wanted to feel like I have to put the ring on her finger in somebody else's timeframe.
I was thinking the exact same thing. Why the heck would this be a control issue......you are doing something wonderful for your lady.
Not everything is a power struggle with people.
Have fun with it all and I am sure she will be surprised and happy.
I was thinking the exact same thing. Why the heck would this be a control issue......you are doing something wonderful for your lady.
Not everything is a power struggle with people.
Have fun with it all and I am sure she will be surprised and happy.
Thanks. I'm going to do that- have fun with it, and she will love it!!
I'm trying to avoid her friends and sisters, because they will blow it. I'll probably try to get her politiking brother in law to find out. He's got the gift of gab and will least likely blow it. He's been a real good, middle of the road guy in this whole process.
I want as little input directly from her, because I feel like it's my symbol to her...as many of you said it's about the symbolism more than it is the symbol. So it may not be to her exact specifications, but I have a good idea of what kind of girl she is, as far as style and all that, because we have a similar approach to a lot of stuff (we're not flashy and don't like a lot of unwarranted attention, but at the same time classy). So I'll definitely be in the ball park.
The more input she gives, the less authentic the experience is for me. I don't want her to have the slightest idea that she's about to get it, so the less she's involved, the more likely she'll be surprised and the better the reaction.
IZthe411, why not propose to her at a Phillies game during the World Series? Nothing more surprising and spontaneous than that! 40,000 fans just watching plus god knows how many more if caught on TV... now THAT would be something she will remember forever.
QUOTE=Johnny Bananas;11273913]IZthe411, why not propose to her at a Phillies game during the World Series? Nothing more surprising and spontaneous than that! 40,000 fans just watching plus god knows how many more if caught on TV... now THAT would be something she will remember forever.[/quote]
I would rather pick the ring or have a few choices, however, if she has a sister, and you are
close to her mother for the surprise have them come and help you after you do your few picks.
Say within a budget and pick either 3 or 4 and then ask for the help. You always could pick out the stone if you know round etc., then both go and do the design!
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