Rings- Let Her Pick it Out or Surprise Her? (daughter, looking, people)
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Unless you have a vast difference in style, you should pick out the ring for her. If on the other hand you have a completely opposite idea about a ring style than her, then she should come with.
we stopped at a few stores in the mall one day and she pointed out "ooh that's so pretty" a few times
i took my cash, went to the store that didn't treat me like dirt because I was dressed in my mechanics uniform and bought one. i have bought ALL her jewelry there ever since, and actually before that I had bought her a couple pieces there. they know me by name, for a store in a mall, im pretty impressed by that
Surprise her........my husband did and boy did he do great. I have never picked out a piece of jewelry for myself nor have ever asked for one and I have some really special jewelry and it means more to me that someone did that for me.
Be very careful who you tell though....my now sister in law ruined my surprise about my engagement ring...she actually drew a picture and told me how my husband ws going to propose...I have never forgotten that and it has been over 30 years. She does that with everyone and ruins a lot of surprises for people.
I'm going to agree with the poster who suggested giving something else as a token, and going ring-shopping together after the fact. Wearing a ring on your finger for the rest of your life is a big deal, and you must really like it, and it must be comfortable. I know a guy who made a cute ring out of braided wild grasses for the promise ring, there are lots of ideas out there. The proposal should be about what you say and feel, the ring isn't the main event. Good luck to you!
The more input she gives, the less authentic the experience is for me. I don't want her to have the slightest idea that she's about to get it, so the less she's involved, the more likely she'll be surprised and the better the reaction.
As much as you want the SURPRISE factor (for YOU) one would hope that you two have at least discussed the idea of marriage and that the proposal won't be coming out of left field. There is nothing wrong with looking through catalogs or window shopping at the mall to get a feel for what she likes before hand. It won't "ruin" anything, but I'm a bit worried that you see it that way...control issues?
Since you already understand her personal taste and have some idea of what kinds of things she likes, I'd say pick something and surprise her Odds are she'll love it just because it came from you and what it means about your intentions. Go for it!
I was a jeweler for years. The surprise is fun - but I'd have tons of ladies tell me the "never really liked the ring". It was a good opp. to re-design.
My suggestion is buy a nice diamond and have it mounted in a solitaire - pop the question, surprise! Then take the ring back to your jeweler and let her pick out or design the ring, resetting the diamond.
Trust me - this never fails!
Surprise her........my husband did and boy did he do great. I have never picked out a piece of jewelry for myself nor have ever asked for one and I have some really special jewelry and it means more to me that someone did that for me.
Be very careful who you tell though....my now sister in law ruined my surprise about my engagement ring...she actually drew a picture and told me how my husband ws going to propose...I have never forgotten that and it has been over 30 years. She does that with everyone and ruins a lot of surprises for people.
Best wishes!
That sucks. I already plan to keep it tight lipped!
As much as you want the SURPRISE factor (for YOU) one would hope that you two have at least discussed the idea of marriage and that the proposal won't be coming out of left field. There is nothing wrong with looking through catalogs or window shopping at the mall to get a feel for what she likes before hand. It won't "ruin" anything, but I'm a bit worried that you see it that way...control issues?
Why would this be an control issue?
It's an engagement ring. I'm not committing her to slavery.
I want to see her reaction and not expect it at all. That's all. The less she's involved the less likely she's expecting it. If she's expecting it, then there's really nothing in it for me. I never wanted to feel like I have to put the ring on her finger in somebody else's timeframe.
I was a jeweler for years. The surprise is fun - but I'd have tons of ladies tell me the "never really liked the ring". It was a good opp. to re-design.
My suggestion is buy a nice diamond and have it mounted in a solitaire - pop the question, surprise! Then take the ring back to your jeweler and let her pick out or design the ring, resetting the diamond.
Trust me - this never fails!
That's an excellent idea!
But would that make it a more costlier pursuit?
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Odds are she'll love it just because it came from you and what it means about your intentions. Go for it!
