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I detect some coldness on his part, I could be wrong.
I've always said I don't trust anyone who doesn't love animals. And I'm kinda with ya that it seems cold, but I can understand not wanting one. They're a huge responsibility. I just can't imagine making the decision not to get a pet, ever, myself. I want the option, even if I don't have one now, so I see her apprehension.
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I love pets... I had a cat but had to get rid of it because my step-father is allergic...
Anyway, I would understand if she was allergic to pets. That's understandable. Not a deal-breaker. If she gave specific reasons as to why she wouldn't want pets then I may have to consider... Hopefully, she'd be willing to have kids instead of pets then. If you truly love a person, it shouldn't matter.
He's not allergic. He just doesn't want one, doesn't feel the warm and fuzzy of it. Some things don't matter when you're in love, some things do. But what about in the beginning stages when there is no love?
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Everyone is different of course. I have had a cat most of my life, and sadly just had to put ours down. I still miss her.
Obviously I only speak for myself here, but not having a pet NOW, and meeting someone that wants no pets, ever, would not bother me at all. Definitely not a deal breaker. Of course that's a completely different scenario than meeting such a person when I HAD a pet.
One of my pals met a guy a few weeks back. He seems nice enough and they get along pretty well but he says he doesn't want any pets, ever. He doesn't hate animals, he's just not a pet person. She is and always has been. She is moving into a new home shortly and planned on getting a Golden Retriever or a Lab. They are both looking to settle down, so this may be a dealbreaker.
Would it be a deal breaker for you? Would you end it now and not waste any more time or would you keep going just to see what happens?
I don't see how it'd work. It's like if one person wants a kid but the other doesn't, there isn't really any compromise. You can't sort of have a kid just like you can't sort of have a pet, either you do or you don't.
If she really wants to be with him maybe she could consider volunteering at the humane society or some other animal rescue center. That way she could still be around animals.
If I were in your friends situation I think I'd let the relationship go, since it's still in the early stages, and look for someone with whom I am more compatible.
it is different if you already have pets, but if not, they're every bit as much of a commitment as children.
i love that we can go where we want, when we want, without having to worry about petsitters or such like.
i don't dislike pets, i just enjoy the freedom of not having one.
Absolutely. They are a huge commitment and I've always worried so much about them when I'm away and there have been issues with kennels and petsitters. If you have a busy life or many responsibilities, it can be tough to take proper care of an animal. Maybe the man is thinking along those lines as well.
it is different if you already have pets, but if not, they're every bit as much of a commitment as children.
i love that we can go where we want, when we want, without having to worry about petsitters or such like.
i don't dislike pets, i just enjoy the freedom of not having one.
I understand completely. I don't agree that not wanting a pet makes you "cold". It IS a huge responsibility. Not as great as having a child of course, but enough that it definitely ties you down. It's why I could never have a dog at home, myself. But do I love them.
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