When a potential partner doesn't want pets (wife, woman, loyalty)
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it is different if you already have pets, but if not, they're every bit as much of a commitment as children.
i love that we can go where we want, when we want, without having to worry about petsitters or such like.
i don't dislike pets, i just enjoy the freedom of not having one.
I agree. I grew up with a dog and loved him. I don't even mind pet sitting my parents' dog but I honestly don't see myself ever owning a pet. It just doesn't work with my lifestyle. So for me if someone owned a pet I would have reservations about continuing the relationship.
One of my pals met a guy a few weeks back. He seems nice enough and they get along pretty well but he says he doesn't want any pets, ever. He doesn't hate animals, he's just not a pet person. She is and always has been. She is moving into a new home shortly and planned on getting a Golden Retriever or a Lab. They are both looking to settle down, so this may be a dealbreaker.
Would it be a deal breaker for you? Would you end it now and not waste any more time or would you keep going just to see what happens?
It would be a deal breaker with me. I enjoy my pets too much to give them up. I'd stop dating someone as soon as I knew they didn't like animals. There's just something creepy about someone who doesn't to me.
It would be a deal breaker with me. I enjoy my pets too much to give them up. I'd stop dating someone as soon as I knew they didn't like animals. There's just something creepy about someone who doesn't to me.
Not wanting a pet doesn't mean you don't like animals. See the posts above!
One of my pals met a guy a few weeks back. He seems nice enough and they get along pretty well but he says he doesn't want any pets, ever. He doesn't hate animals, he's just not a pet person. She is and always has been. She is moving into a new home shortly and planned on getting a Golden Retriever or a Lab. They are both looking to settle down, so this may be a dealbreaker.
Would it be a deal breaker for you? Would you end it now and not waste any more time or would you keep going just to see what happens?
Many years ago I was proposed to and accepted. A couple of days later he casually asked, "What are you going to do with the cats when we get married?" (I had two at the time).
Three years into the marriage he had me and the original two cats plus 2-3 more - along with two dogs, half a dozen ducks and over 20 horses in the barn. We didn't manage to make the marriage last beyond 7-8 years but I don't think it had anything to with the presence of all the animals.
It really would be a deal breaker for me as I've had animals around me all my life and it would be a bit of an odd life without them. Anyway, your friend has only known this chap for a very short while and who knows what might happen in the future? If she gets the dog she obviously wants then maybe he'll get used to having an animal around and if he doesn't, well ....
One of my pals met a guy a few weeks back. He seems nice enough and they get along pretty well but he says he doesn't want any pets, ever. He doesn't hate animals, he's just not a pet person. She is and always has been. She is moving into a new home shortly and planned on getting a Golden Retriever or a Lab. They are both looking to settle down, so this may be a dealbreaker.
Would it be a deal breaker for you? Would you end it now and not waste any more time or would you keep going just to see what happens?
It depends, what is more important, having pets or being with the love of your life? I hope she doesn't stay with him solely b/c she thinks she may change his mind....?
yanno, it might be wise to explore other areas that they might NOT have in common...on the other hand...are you going to compromise what you want, who you are and what you like for someone?
One of my pals met a guy a few weeks back. He seems nice enough and they get along pretty well but he says he doesn't want any pets, ever. He doesn't hate animals, he's just not a pet person. She is and always has been. She is moving into a new home shortly and planned on getting a Golden Retriever or a Lab. They are both looking to settle down, so this may be a dealbreaker.
Would it be a deal breaker for you? Would you end it now and not waste any more time or would you keep going just to see what happens?
Well, that's a tough one. I have two Shih Tzus and a cat right now and this is my family. I should think a guy could adjust. HOWEVER, if I didn't already have pets I'd probably forego the dog for a while to see what would happen with the guy.
The love of potential mates come and go but pet's love last forever.
Plus, I am a foster for rescue dogs so I've had up to ten at any given time in the house. A deal breaker for sure.
I agree that it's a personal choice, not liking animals doesn't make anyone bad. But if it's something you can't imagine not having in your life - then you should probably consider it a dealbreaker.
I raise puppies for a guide dog organization (taking time off right now for school). I also have three of my own, plus my donkeys, ducks, and rabbits. (When people find out that you rescue animals, you tend to accumulate them). Only the dogs are "pets" but if I met someone that didn't like animals, I wouldn't see much of a future.
They would very quickly become a NON-potential partner.
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