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I just realize when it comes to open relationships, many men would only want it for themselves, their own satisfy but yet get jealous if we thought about doing the same thing..
This is funny.... Only about two days ago me and my boyfriend had a thought about it. Well see, I had fantasize for a while about him doing other things with another woman or getting it on online. He was the one who brought up that topic and was asking what I would feel sharing him..
But he immediately changed his mind back to committed relationship when I told him it would have to be 50/50. Meaning, I share him but he would share me as well too (obviously I would want to do the same thing). He was like, oh no I was only thinking of a woman doing things on me and you watching.
Then I proceed with the idea of a half-way open relationship. Meaning there is no sex or the other sexual acts but kissing and fonding. He almost was about to agree until he knew I would be doing the same.
As for online sex, same thing. He doesn't want to do it because he wouldn't be happy if I were to do it. IMO an open relationship is 50/50, same as a committed relationship. Why should one do something and the other can't...
Yes there are many men that feel this way, and it of course deals with insecurity and jealousy issues. On the other hand there are many many men out there, that don't have the same types of problems, if this wasnt the case there wouldnt be the millions of swinging couples around the world.
If both people can't allow themselves to be open when it comes to an open relationship, then they should never venture into it, because it will cause more problems in the long run.
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too but is not willing to share it. If one person has reservations about being "open" then it's not going to work. You are playing with matches, be careful.
I guess he wanted to be open with me on this subject which is why before he started talking about this, he asked if I was going to get mad. But he didn't know I had those fantasies as well. When I was starting to explained to him about me getting turn on as I watched him kissed and petting another girl, he was glad to hear it but slowly turned the deal off as I explained to him he would then be doing the same thing, watched me kissed and fondle another man as well.
As for me, I would have no problems if he wants an open relationship but he would have to let me do the same thing as well. It doesn't work that way where one wants to do it for himself and the girl can't.
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Oh please, then tell me, if open relationships are natures way of rolling out the welcome mat of AIDS, then how come there are millions of people in the swinging lifestyle that have never contracted a STD of any kind? Just because you don't agree with someone lifestyle choice, don't mean that it is something that will cause harm or death.
I guess he wanted to be open with me on this subject which is why before he started talking about this, he asked if I was going to get mad. But he didn't know I had those fantasies as well. When I was starting to explained to him about me getting turn on as I watched him kissed and petting another girl, he was glad to hear it but slowly turned the deal off as I explained to him he would then be doing the same thing, watched me kissed and fondle another man as well.
I think open relationships are wrong on several levels but you go ahead and do whatever makes you happy. The reason people get all sorts of strange fantasies and fetishes is because we over glorify sex. When people are hungry you don't see a roasted chicken dancing on a pole and half hiding its breasts. Fast forward that problem a thousand times with sex and you have modern society. It is unfathomable to me how some people get turned on by beastiality, pedophilia, and other things like midgets in suitcases. Its basically a mental illness that is "acceptable" because people make lots and lots of money off of it.
I agree 100%, Jason28...but you had me laughing out loud with this comment.
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