Do Women Really Get Hit On A Lot (internet, stalking, surprise)
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I have noticed that when I am happy, I get hit on A LOT. It's just attractive when someone is happy, and other people respond. Looks is part of it, but not all of it.
This is huge - smiling makes all the difference in the world
Happy people want to be around happy people. Think about the last time you were about to sit down at a huge dinner table: do you sit at the end of the table where everyone is bursting out in laughter, or the other end where everyone is silent and staring at their iPhones??
She was quoting me when she wrote that post, my answer is I love women and because of that reality I would love to.have that problem in fact I would not call it a problem I would call it a bkessing or a fortune. Attractive or not any attention cominb from women is attention I welcome and why wouldn't I?
Her intent is to put a different perspective on the female situation and to point out that the grass isn't necessarily greener.
We could all do better to try and understand where the other gender is coming from, objectively. There are things that men have trouble understanding about life as a woman, and definitely vice versa. So Nila's post was an analogy created to help in that regard. Does that make sense?
I understand what she was trying to say, sort of. But the situations were a bit fantastic, as in a bit far from reality, and not exactly analogous. Women do welcome attention, the right kind, from the right kind of men, at least by their standards. Men, at least straight men, do not welcome attention of any kind from gay men.
She was quoting me when she wrote that post, my answer is I love women and because of that reality I would love to.have that problem in fact I would not call it a problem I would call it a bkessing or a fortune. Attractive or not any attention cominb from women is attention I welcome and why wouldn't I?
Yes, I know it was your post. I agree with it of course.
I understand what she was trying to say, sort of. But the situations were a bit fantastic, as in a bit far from reality, and not exactly analogous. Women do welcome attention, the right kind, from the right kind of men, at least by their standards. Men, at least straight men, do not welcome attention of any kind from gay men.
Yes - but the point is that you don't get to pick and choose who hits on you or who pays attention to you.
Yes - but the point is that you don't get to pick and choose who hits on you or who pays attention to you.
I'm sure that's true. Just saying, I guess, that I would welcome harassment from women. I guess I'm immune from any sort of harassment in any case though.
I've never got hit on or hit on anyone cold turkey, cause it's weird. But I've wanted to before. The most disappointing thing when I do is that they already are married or engaged or something like that and then its just weird to talk normal after that.
I'm sure that's true. Just saying, I guess, that I would welcome harassment from women. I guess I'm immune from any sort of harassment in any case though.
One thing that I was trying to point out is the immense difference between the genders when.it comes to this issue, here you have women complaining about men hitting on them and yet for a lot of men that would be an awesome thing. So let's say you are a woman and men hit on you a lot, that means they find you attractive and desirable, what is so wrong and bad about that? As a man if women hit on me a lot why should that bother me? Now if we were saying that those women were constantly approaching me to tell me how ugly and undesirable I am as a man then now I have a reason to be upset and so does a woman but that is not what this is about. Women get hit on by men and that bothers them. It is incredible, no wonder some men stop approaching women altogether. I certainly would never become.the type of man who would be approaching or hitting on women, forget that. Since it bothers them.so much I won't put them.through the incerdibly painful agony of having to get complements from me. I will leave the honor of being label a creep to some other guy.
One thing that I was trying to point out is the immense difference between the genders when.it comes to this issue, here you have women complaining about men hitting on them and yet for a lot of men that would be an awesome thing. So let's say you are a woman and men hit on you a lot, that means they find you attractive and desirable, what is so wrong and bad about that? As a man if women hit on me a lot why should that bother me? Now if we were saying that those women were constantly approaching me to tell me how ugly and undesirable I am as a man then now I have a reason to be upset and so does a woman but that is not what this is about. Women get hit on by men and that bothers them. It is incredible, no wonder some men stop approaching women altogether. I certainly would never become.the type of man who would be approaching or hitting on women, forget that. Since it bothers them.so much I won't put them.through the incerdibly painful agony of having to get complements from me. I will leave the honor of being label a creep to some other guy.
I think that most women (or this is how I feel, anyway) are flattered when someone hits on them or compliments them in a respectful manner. The thing that you aren't understanding is that sometimes men hit on women in a disrespectful or even scary manner. A man telling me that I'm attractive and that he'd like to take me out - that's great. A man not taking no for an answer, following me down the street, telling me to turn around so that he can admire my body while I'm at work, etc. - those things are not flattering. This is what bothers women.
I think that most women (or this is how I feel, anyway) are flattered when someone hits on them or compliments them in a respectful manner. The thing that you aren't understanding is that sometimes men hit on women in a disrespectful or even scary manner. A man telling me that I'm attractive and that he'd like to take me out - that's great. A man not taking no for an answer, following me down the street, telling me to turn around so that he can admire my body while I'm at work, etc. - those things are not flattering. This is what bothers women.
Most women would miss the attention if it suddenly stopped. Beit Repectful manner or disrespectful manner.
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